Long Distance Relationship?

[msfsteven]

Hello (: So I met someone online that lives about 4 hours away from me.
I like him and he likes me... but do long distance relationships work out?
I text and FaceTime him all of the time. But are long distance relationships even real?

[Briana]

Of course they work, if you put the effort into them. I have been with my girlfriend for over 2 years and couldn't be happier. You can only maintain the relationship if you really work on it. With, planning meet-ups, sending each other things in the mail, calling each other, etc.

[msfsteven]

Thanks.
Also, what if there really isn't a way to meet up?

[Aletheia*]

Sure they work; both parties just need to make an effort and ALOT of trust is needed to make them succeed. If you don't talk often (as in making an effort), the relationship won't go very far and same with trust. A relationship without it isn't much of a relationship.

However, if there is no way of meeting each other in person, the relationship could still work, but you'll need to double that effort to talk to each other, speak to each other via Skype or whatever. But, I'm sure over time there will be ways of seeing each other, especially if you meet halfway.

[Angel]

Anything can work out if you put enough effort and commitment into it. Things can get quite tough to keep up with because of the distance, but if you two are fully intent on making this work there's little that is stopping you. There's nothing to say that a long distance relationship is "less real" than a relationship between two people that live down the block from each other. Everything is as real as you make it. If the feelings are there, who is to say that it is not real?

If you cannot find a way or see yourself meeting this person at some point down the road, it won't work out I'm afraid. You can't expect to retain an intimate relationship from a distance for the rest of your life, can you? It's one thing not to meet up any time soon, but it's another to expect not to meet at all. You can still enjoy his company but you need to look at this from an honest perspective.

[JoshS]

It can work for sure, i met my girlfriend online actually from this site, and it is hard but it does work and it is worth it. so far we have been dating almost three months long distance, and we are about 19 hours away from each other and haven't met once yet. you just have to figure out a way you can meet eventually and look forward to that, there has to be an end to the distance eventually.

[Xx.Shes.Unbroken.xX]

I live in Virginia, my boyfriend lives in New York. He's 18, I'm 14. I completely trust him, as silly or stupid as it may sound. But, we've been together for almost 2 months. We were like best friends/really close before we got together. We talk everyday and send each other things in the mail. He's serious about our relationship, and so am I. My point is... if you're determined to be with him, then it can work. Just have hope, and communication is key. Talk about things that bother you and be completely honest with each other. I hope all goes well.

--Michelle<3

[purplekc95]

In my opinion, no. But some people can make it work but i wouldn't recommend it. Settle for someone who's actually there physcially and leave this guy as your friend.

[Briana]

Originally Posted by purplekc95

In my opinion, no. But some people can make it work but i wouldn't recommend it. Settle for someone who's actually there physcially and leave this guy as your friend.

If someone is worth your time and love, anything is possible. If you are madly in love with this person and you want to make it work. Then go for it. Love conquers all, even when the physical aspects of the relationship, can not be reached at this very moment. Always look towards the future.

[Chris.]

I disagree with the above post - however, I do agree that long distance relationships are hard, and there has to be not only alot of effort, but alot of attraction. Please understand - that although YOU may be putting in the effort, he may not be and the relationship will fail. This has to be an equal relationship, equal effort, and equal attraction/love. If things are not equal (or close), then the relationships is doomed to fail. Do I know people who have had failed LDR? Yes, alot. Do I know people who have had a successful LDR? Yes. So once again, it depends on the people involved, and the effort put into it.



Best wishes,
Chris

[Angeal]

Yes they do, I'm dating someone who lives not that far away, but we don't get to see each other. If you really like this person, it can work out. Best of luck.