Hormones suck

[lovatoac]

During the day I am all "I love being single! Blah, blah, blah!" And then at night I want a guy to be there for me. I want a guy to hug me and say everythings going to be alright. And to watch Lord of The Rings with me all night because I have really bad insomnia.

So here's the question, how do I get it so during the day I don't hate the idea of a relationship and at night I don't love the idea of a relationship? I don't know if that made sense, but I hope you get what I mean!

[Aletheia*]

What I'm confused about is the fact that during the day, you like being single. But, the next sentence you said you didn't mind the idea of a relationship. You sort of contradicted what you said in the first sentence by what you said in the second.

[Chris.]

See, when you are alone, and you see on TV or see on facebook, or see photos of relationships - it drives a person nuts. At night you are laying in bed (or at home) and you just want someone to cuddle with, watch TV with, etc. But at day you don't even think about it much. Heres the reason: Well at night, you are alone, and your doing your own thing and its nice to have a boyfriend to be with, and cuddle with. But during the day, often we find ourselves busy that we don't even think about it - or in other cases we don't have the hormones to even really want a boyfriend. But at night the hormones jump.

Believe it or not - alot of people feel this way (and I have at points too). Its sucks. The only thing I can really say is maybe start putting yourself on the market again - because there is really no way to switch the two around, or to want to be single 24/7. You are always at some point going to want a boyfriend to be with and cuddle with - and the only thing to solve that problem is to get a cuddle buddy, or a boyfriend.



Best wishes,
Chris

[alexalauren]

I completely understand. I'm kind of the same way. Sometimes I feel great about myself and think, hey I don't need a boyfriend! Being single is great! Then when I get home and sit alone by myself I start feeling lonely and I long for a boyfriend to keep me company. I want the soothing attention that a guy brings, and the occasional teasing when we're feeling silly. I understand.
I don't know if this will work for you, but here are a few things I've tried. During the day have fun being single, but don't judge guys so quickly. If a guy starts flirting with you, just let it happen. Don't let yourself be opposed to it. Remind yourself of how you feel when you're home alone at night. How nice would it be to have a boyfriend to help you with that feeling!
Then at night when your having a hard time, I recommend finding distractions. Call up a friend and chat for a bit. Sit with your family and watch tv, chat, etc. I find that not isolating myself alone in my room helps a lot. When other people are awake, take advantage of that and be around them! It takes away a lot of the sting you feel when you're alone. Then later in the night when you're the only one awake (I assume that's the case, as you say you have trouble sleeping - I do as well) I would suggest that you journal. Just let your thoughts fly. Don't worry about proper grammar, or spelling, just let it out. Clearing your head is really nice when you just need a break. The second thing I do is make lists of things that make me happy. I think of three good things that happened to me that day and write them down. While these are all good suggestions, I know that getting yourself to do them is the hardest part. Sometimes I know what to do to make me feel better, but I just don't feel like doing it. You just have to push through and try something anyway. You'll feel so much better once your done. I feel that journaling is the easiest. There's no pressure there - just pure thoughts on paper (or in a word document). I have a laptop, so I keep a journal on microsoft word; I just type and let my thoughts fly. I always feel better when I'm done. Then during the day I can come back and sort through my thoughts. This could help you stay open to a relationship during the day.

I wish you the best of luck with all that you're doing! If you need any extra help, feel free to PM me!

[Ambiance]

Mm, I understand this by a LOT. During the day, you're busy, then at night you're lonely and you just kind of want somebody. I would just keep an open mind if a guy seems interested in you, or if you find someone else you think you could date. At night, I would draw, and do all the things the person above me recommended ^^