Male Advice Preferred: stuck in emptiness

[ms.right]

The guy that i have like for years and that likes me too just moved away and when he was tell ing me bye i blow him off.The thing is is that i didnt know till after his last day.I feel horrible and i feel like i will never be the same and he will never forgive me.He hugged me 3 times that day and i should have known stupid girl,i should have known.

[Brandon]

I think that talking to him about how you feel is the best step. If you've liked this guy for many years and he just now moves away, obviously you're upset and he should understand that you didn't "blow him off" because you wanted to be mean, you blew him off because you're upset about the situation and didn't want him to move away but knew that you had no choice but to accept it. Perhaps you felt vulnerable that if you expressed yourself, you'd get sucked into the moment and encourage him not to go, so you just blew him off because you didn't want to go through that experience. He can forgive you as long as you provide a justifiable reason. There is no indication that you will "never be the same." Your best option is to talk to him about and learn from the experience. If it happens again, don't blow the guy off because you know that you don't want to go through that experience again by feeling guilty without a proper ending. It may not have been the best way to end a short-distance relationship (now it may be a long-distance if you're still willing to be a couple), but sometimes our emotions get the best of us and result in us doing stupid things. We may commit stupid acts, but that doesn't necessarily make us stupid. We make mistakes, and we learn from them. Don't beat yourself over something like this. Time heals all wounds. Talk to him, and then focus on healing yourself because talking to him about everything will help you heal yourself over time.

[ms.right]

Thank you so much for the help.i guess it will be ok one he starts to answer my texts again.I feel bad now but i guess it takes time.

[Aletheia*]

It will definitely take some time. Maybe you could shoot him a Facebook message. Since he recently moved, or is moving, I'm sure he's going to be extremely busy and might not have time to answer text messages right now. Or, maybe he's hurt. Just telling him how you feel, and letting him know that you didn't mean to blow him off (and explaining that you didn't even know what was happening) will help. If he doesn't reply right away, let him come to you.

[ms.right]

well he forgave me but like i expected he moved on and i still cant.everytime i think about it it hurts.im not a cryer and i dont really show negative emotion but its still eating at me.