Im 14, i really like this guy, like more than ive ever liked any guy ever, and i dont like very many very often. Im a shy girl, so im not the "Wanna go out!!!" Type at all.
I thought me and "lets call him Isaac" Isaac had alot in common, and got on well.
However, yesterday he wasnt at school and i wondered what for. Turns out he went to the movies with some guy friends. I didnt mind this, until i found out that "lets call her Caitlin" Caitlin went with them. Caitlin is such a flirt and all the boys that hang out with her are hypnotised by her. I know isaac used to like her last year.
I am feeling very down, and jealous, and i dont want to feel like this. What do i do?
So Isaac used to like her last year - so what? Are they dating? Nope! Are they going to start dating just because they went to a movie with a group of friends? Not necessarily. If you want to stop feeling jealous, make your move! Remove all uncertainty from your mind by finding out where you stand with Isaac. Of course, that's going to take some time, because 1) it sounds like you're a bit shy, and 2) you'll need to get to know him better before asking him out. The longer you wait, though, the longer you're going to brood over these feelings, and that's no fun! =P
I agree with Robin. The fact that Isaac used to like her last year doesn't mean anything. I think what you should do now is forget about your jealousy and try to focus on getting to know him better. You might want to try to get out of your shyness to talk to him more and get closer to him, then from there you can make the next move. If you keep on doing nothing about it, I'm afraid nothing will happen between both of you and he might as well become out of your reach. Good luck!
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Robin's right. Just because "Caitlin" and "Issac" went to the movies with a group of friend doesn't mean much of anything. Does that mean they like each other now? No. It just means they went to the movies with a group of friends. You don't know the circumstances in which she went: maybe he's dating one of his friends, and she went along. Who knows? Jealousy could tear a person a part, so don't let this get to you. If you want to be with Issac, make a move. It doesn't necessarily mean "Hey, wanna go out!". It just means you need to step up to grab and keep his attention. Confidence is key.
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Ah, it's called jealousy. You're in love with him. If you want to go out with him, he needs to know it. Shy people don't give off the little signals that tell other people they're interested, so chances are he doesn't know it. In fact, many people experience shyness as dislike so he may thing you don't like him.
Let him know in small ways that you're interested in hem. Texts, notes, talk to him about anything in the world, ask him about things he's interested in and be interested in them yourself. Things like that. & good luck.
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Re: It Hurts -
March 26th 2012, 08:29 AM
As said before, Robin is right.
Just because he went to the movies witha group of friends including her doesn't mean a thing, nor does the fact that he liked her last year. People change all the time. Who knows? Maybe he likes you now but is too shy to say anything.
Just try to get to him well and just hint to him how you feel and see how he responds.
Hope I helped
Best wishes xx