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Re: People scare me - September 1st 2009, 10:47 PM

Hi there Emily,

Well done for posting here, it's good that you have posted and sometimes having a rant is a good thing, so don't feel as though you have to be sorry - it's good that you have posted.

I'm sorry to hear that you have been self harming and it is more than likely that it could be related to the other things that you are struggling with right now. Self harming is a method of coping and it may be something you are using to try and gain some more control of things too, perhaps. I think that you do need to try and address your self harming as well as the other things that you're dealing with right now as it is not a safe or healthy thing to do. I would recommend that you use distractions and try alternatives. There is a large list of alternatives that you could try out [here] in the Self Harm Forum.

I feel as though I can relate to your post, Emily, and I'm sure that others may be able to, too. I'm sorry to hear about the bullying you have faced in the past, that must have been very difficult to deal with and you did not deserve to be targeted because of your weight, the people who did that to you were wrong to do so. I think that it is quite understandable that you sometimes become worried or anxious when you are around people who you do not know - this is not unusual and maybe you are worried because of what has happened in the past, the same goes for the issues you have whilst eating in public. I'm sorry about what has happened to you in the past, Emily, and I understand that it is difficult, but you shouldn't let the past hold you back in the present or future - don't let what has happened in the past dominate your living now. I realise that it is difficult, but try and reassure yourself. Not everyone is going to critisize you or pick on you, Emily. As for becoming anxious, have you tried out any breathing or relaxation techniques? They could really help you during your anxiety attacks. These techniques may also help you before you go to sleep at night too. Writing your worries in a journal may also help, before you go to sleep.

Do you have anyone you could talk to about these things you're worried about? Talking to your mum about these things would be a good idea, seeing as she's already aware of the panic attacks you are having. Talking to someone such as a counsellor or a doctor could also help as there are also the options of medication and therapy if you believe they would help you.

Take care.