Re: Being Social -
January 29th 2012, 10:46 PM
Well first off I want to say that you are making progress by being on campus. Your doing good, and off to a decent start - which I don't think you are giving yourself enough credit for. These things take time, and you wont always see results within a few weeks.
Joining that club is a great start - so once you start getting involved, you are already good to go because you know the people in the club like at least 1 thing similar to you.
As far as classrooms and hallways, and whenever you see people - just simply make eye contact (not for too long) and say hi, or hi ya, or how you doing. It sounds stupid, but communication is how friendships start. So start off small with a hi, and then next time you see that person maybe say, how are you doing, then maybe next time say, "Ive seen you a few times around here, what are you majoring in?". Point is - make small conversations, and build them up.
When you are sitting in class, talk to the person next to you - and then after a few weeks of getting to know them, ask them if they wanna go to a bar (depending on age) or to the club down the street, or to get food, or to workout, or anything like that.
Its important to try, but not try to hard. Don't force anything, but instead just be patient and just roll with the punches,
"Scars remind us where we've been, but they don't have to dictate where we're going"