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idonthaveaclue

April 27th 2016 10:04 AM

Feel pressured to do 'it' with my boyfriend?

So i have been in a relationship for 8 months now and i dont know if it's just anxiety but i rarely want to have sex with him and me saying no is just something he hears and then thinks of persuading me. I'mjust not sure what to do anymore

DeletedAccount30

April 27th 2016 10:15 AM

Re: Feel pressured to do 'it' with my boyfriend?

Hey! :)

It's a big step in your relationship and it is your decision whether you want to take it or not. If you don't feel comfortable with it, you don't have to do it! I'd suggest being open with him and letting him know that you aren't ready for it yet. I'm sure he'd understand! Communication is the key to a good relationship. Let him know how you feel! Tell him you feel pressurised and you're not comfortable with that. Promise to let him know when you feel ready. But keep in mind that you don't have to rush to do anything. If you aren't comfortable doing something, don't do it. It's your choice too.

Once you decide you're ready, don't forget to always practice safe sex! As obvious as that might sound, a lot of people actually don't. Take care! :)

Feel free to PM/VM me if you need anything, I love listening and (if possible) helping out! :hug:

See you around! :)
Love. - xx

xxpaigiexx

April 28th 2016 06:30 PM

Re: Feel pressured to do 'it' with my boyfriend?

Hey there,

Speak to your boyfriend. Let him know the things that may be putting you off sex, is it being tired, is it just not feeling 'in the mood'. Communication is a big part of being in a relationship and we have to be open and honest about our feelings.
If you're tired then maybe try having sex at a different time of the day, in the morning or in the afternoon. If you're just not feeling in the mood then maybe you could focus on being intimate with your boyfriend and with foreplay. Kissing, cuddling and giving yourself time to relax, if you feel in the mood to have sex, great if you don't then look at other ideas.

Whether or not you have sex is your decision, if you don't want to have sex then tell your boyfriend and be firm with him, he should respect your decision to have sex or not.

I wish you the best of luck,
Paige

Samuel

April 28th 2016 11:59 PM

Re: Feel pressured to do 'it' with my boyfriend?

I e never had sex before. I don't think I'm ready for it either. But there's also a bigger age difference between me and you

But here's my thought, if you feel he's pressuring you, then maybe he doesn't have your best interests at heart. If he really loves you, yeah sex I'm sure would be awesome, he'll wait, till your both ready.

If not, sounds like there's an issue there

Destroyprophecy

May 8th 2016 07:30 AM

Re: Feel pressured to do 'it' with my boyfriend?

Theres no rush over the years i realized that and i have been together with my bf for 4 years now and have not done it because we realized that it simply wasnt important and it could wait for a better time there are other better things to focus on like our happiness for example :)

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