I really haven't been on here lately, so I apologize for that.

Anyways... I was thinking of telling my friend about my depression.I'm seriously considering it, but I am not entirely sure if I should. Ok, so... I know this isn't right, but I do it. Whenever I feel depressed, angry, or a few other things, I usually take it out on her. She is the only person I take it out on, no one else.

This is ruining our friendship, she sometimes asks why I treat her that way, & why I ac that way to her. I just tell something else, she has no clue about my depression.

So, do you think it would be a good idea to tell her? I think I'll tell her via text, but, I don't know if I should tell her face to face.
At first, How much should I tell her? Would it be a good idea to tell her about my suicidal thoughts?

I think that it would be okay to tell her about what is going on. Of course, one of the best ways to tell her is face to face, but if you think you would be unable to do that, it is okay if you tell her over text.

At least if your friend knows what is going on, she may be more understanding about why you are acting that way towards her. You can let her know a bit about why you take it out on her and let her know that you know it isn't right, but this is something you are struggling with right now. Let her know that you feel really bad about it. Maybe once she knows what is going on, the two of you can better communicate about ways to fix the friendship.

If you feel comfortable with telling her about the suicidal thoughts, you can. Besides being able to help repair the friendship if she has a bit of an explanation, maybe she can become a bit of a support system to you once she knows what is going on!

-Dez

Thanks!

If anyone else could answer, I'd appreciate it

I agree what was said above, she needs to know what is going on and maybe she could help you overcome the depression.

Trust me, she can help.

-Matthew

Hi there!

I think it'd be a good idea to tell her. Then she'd be more likely to support you and understand why you were treating her that way. Telling the truth and communicating might build your friendship stronger. Want my suggestion? If telling her verbally feels difficult, then I think it'd be a good idea to hand her a note explaining it. That way you could talk it out face to face after she reads it. In my opinion, it's always better to do it in person. But sometimes it feels too difficult, if it is, then you could always tell her via text like Dez suggested.

Hope it works out with your friend. Even though taking it out on others isn't the best thing to do, it's understandable. With depression, there has to be an outlet somewhere. I just hope that you can find a healthy outlet and have a healthy support system with your friend. Good luck, stay strong.

Disclosure of sensitive information like this is always so damn tricky. I have many a times felt obligated to explain honestly to someone why I haven't been behaving reasonably. Does it actually help in the long run? I don't know. I do know that I am able to let go of a lot of guilt and emotional stuck-ness when I know that the other person's head isn't going wild with speculations of why I am so irresponsible and frustrating to be around. It can also act as an externally reinforced check on my own behaviour, now that the conversation has been put out there, I would be compelled to reevaluate myself more carefully before acting out and behaving in a way that I might feel uncomfortable about again.

Do whatever works for you, in the least distressing way possible. I spent a week agonizing over a disclosure not long ago, trying to start several times and then failing, but one day it sort of just came out randomly.

And good luck.