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Unhappy Im new, and I think I am Depressed - October 1st 2012, 08:55 PM

Hey, my name is Maddie and I think I'm depressed. ih ave taken onlind test to see, and they all said yes i was, but you cant ever believe what is online. i want to tell my mom, but she always expectst the best from me. but i have been self-harming and Im afraid that Ill get addicted.
i have had mood changes kinda like Bipolar, which the tests also said i that i have and have very high Major Depression. i really want to know what i have so i can MAYBE get help. i have to get enough courage to tell my mom still.
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Re: Im new, and I think I am Depressed - October 1st 2012, 09:33 PM

Hey there,

First of all, you're right not to trust the online tests. They're not reliable and you shouldn't try to diagnose yourself without the say so of a professional. There's every chance that the tests may reinforce that there's something you need to be concerned about, but don't ever assume they're correct. Just the same, we're not professionals here. We can't tell you whether or not you have depression or bipolar or any other form of mental or physical illness. If you want a diagnosis, you'll have to see a doctor who can then go down the necessary routes to diagnose you.

Parents expect the best out of everyone, they'll want their children to achieve the best and go on to be the best they can be, that's inevitable. You shouldn't let this hold you back from telling her though. Self harming, and any suspicion that you may actually be suffering from a mental illness, is cause for concern, and your mum will understand this and want only what is best for you.

In terms of the self harm, it IS addictive and you should look for ways to kick it while it's still reasonably easy to resist. With time, it gets harder, so the fact you know you don't want to get addicted is a good reason and way of motivation yourself to stop before it gets harder too. What sorts of things do you enjoy doing? What makes you happy? Perhaps you can take up a hobby or sport so that when you get the urge to SH, you can turn to this instead. Maybe you can draw something or write something, or get down your feelings in a diary or talk to a friend instead of taking all of the emotion out on yourself. Maybe set yourself managable goals as to how long you can go SH free. For example, have you got a special event in the near future that you could set as your first goal? A relative or friends birthday, a wedding, maybe a school holiday? Use this as a way of challenging yourself, once you meet the goal, reward yourself by perhaps going out and buying yourself a little gift, then set yourself a slightly more challenging, but still managable target to reach for next time.

If telling your mum is challenging for you, maybe don't do it face to face. I, myself, find it very hard to face confrontations with people, and so I tend to write something instead. Maybe you could write her a letter explaining your concerns or e-mail her or something. Then you can edit it and shape it to be the way you're happy with before giving it to her, and that way you might find it easier to deal with.

You should try and tell someone though. Don't assume that the results you got online are right or wrong, but if you feel something is wrong and you need to talk to someone, do that, because you're entitled to the help. Of course your mum will expect high of you, but she'll be proud regardless, and there's nothing saying that just because you're unhappy and may or may not suffer from one of the illnesses outlined, that you still wont succeed in what you aim to do. It may make it harder, but there's no rule saying it's impossible, and you can overcome whatever is thrown at you.

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Re: Im new, and I think I am Depressed - October 1st 2012, 09:35 PM

Hey there Mady
I commented on the other copy of this thread, just in case you don't see it.
Stay strong.

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Re: Im new, and I think I am Depressed - October 2nd 2012, 09:33 AM

Hey there, welcoe to the site firstly. And secondly, only a therapist can really give an accurate (or somewhat accurate), diagnosis.
Your mum would want you to be honest with her, and to be the best you can be you'd need to voice up to suspicions like this.


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Re: Im new, and I think I am Depressed - October 3rd 2012, 10:24 AM

Feeling better takes time, but you can get there if you make positive choices for yourself each day.Recovering from depression requires action. But taking action when you’re depressed is hard. In fact, just thinking about the things you should do to feel better, like going for a walk or spending time with friends, can be exhausting.

It’s the Catch-22 of depression recovery. The things that help the most are the things that are most difficult to do. But there’s a difference between difficult and impossible.

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The key to depression recovery is to start with a few small goals and slowly build from there. Draw upon whatever resources you have. You may not have much energy, but you probably have enough to take a short walk around the block or pick up the phone to call a loved one.

Take things one day at a time and reward yourself for each accomplishment. The steps may seem small, but they’ll quickly add up. And for all the energy you put in to your depression recovery, you’ll get back much more in return.Its make our health better water filter reviews and information
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Re: Im new, and I think I am Depressed - October 13th 2012, 04:44 AM

Hey there! Well I deal with depression as well and one day I broke down and I was crying and told my brother and showed him my scars, the look on his face was awful he looked disappointed and it was horrible..the moment still replays on my mind and I wished he would of helped me instead of acting like it never happened. I would recommend you tell your mum because she won't judge you..she's your mother and if she expects the best from you she should understand what you're going through..message me if you need help<3
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