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HelpForAFriend - February 25th 2013, 03:44 AM

So, I myself am not suicidal, though I do have bouts of depression, but my friend is. He has been to the Mental Hospital twice for attempting suicide. I feel he has been triggered again, and I want to say the right things to stop it from happening again. He has a horrible family life, and he lives far away from me. We can only text. I say that I care for him, and that he matters and that he is loved by all his friends and to ignore his brother's abusive words. But obviously, like all other seriously suicidal people, he will not, and does not believe. I don't know what to say to help him. I've tried very hard, but nothing seems to work. I need advice. I want to help him, save him. No one else seems to be trying, and he needs a friends that will soothe and encourage him. But I don't seem to say the right things, though I try very hard.
   
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Re: HelpForAFriend - February 25th 2013, 04:09 AM

Hey there. One of the best things you can do for someone in that situation is what you've already been doing - letting him know you're there. Even for someone in major emotional turmoil, that can make a huge difference (even if it's not apparent to you). Another idea would be inviting him to be on this site. We can't replace professional help, but we can be there and help strengthen his support system. Giving him compliments or positive quotes could also help. Let me know if you need anything


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Re: HelpForAFriend - February 25th 2013, 04:16 AM

I don't think i'd be able to persuade him to join this site. He is rather prideful and I think he would be embarrassed, sadly. But thank you, I will keep trying my best.
   
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Re: HelpForAFriend - February 25th 2013, 09:19 AM

Hi, Sawyer,

You sound like a really good friend for wanting and trying so hard to help him. You're a really sweet and amazing person for that. Umm... I agree with Chris, even though he is prideful it still might help if you explained the site to him and let him know about it and that way maybe as a resort he may come here. It's worth a try because even if he doesn't use this, it's still an option for him and you've got the idea out. Could you convince him to talk with the school counselor? Or call a hotline if he feels extremely depressed or suicidal?

I think it'd be best to keep doing what you're doing right now for him. Make sure you remind him how special and cared for he is. Ask how he's feeling, wish him a good day/night, send him inspiring quotes in text. Another thing, if he lives far away, how about sending him a hand-written letter telling him to stay strong, and list everything you like about him. List some reasons to keep living. Hand-written shows more thought put into it. And maybe when you two can visit, plan a night of fun to distract him? Play board games, watch movies and eat popcorn or snacks, play games?

I hope for the best for your friend. Remember to make sure you're taking care of yourself while you're helping him out too. It can take a lot out of a person so continue to be there for him, and watch out for yourself too.

Good luck! Feel free to PM/VM me if you need someone to talk to or a shoulder to lean on.
   
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