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Why am I so jealous of him? - March 16th 2013, 07:36 AM

A close friend of mine, who is an aspiring musician, just got asked to intern at Warner Bros Records as one of their songwriters. I'm really happy for him but deep down I feel jealous of him. I really have no special talents of my own. I have plenty of interests, especially in music. I want to be a general physician and I'm working towards it but it seems like a distant dream. Compared to the other AP students in my classes, I feel incredibly stupid and untalented. No matter what, it seems like my friend is always better than me in all aspects of life. He is a really good friend of mine and he considers me a good friend of his. He's told me he loves me on several occasions, so you see why I feel bad about not being completely happy with his new success
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Re: Why am I so jealous of him? - March 16th 2013, 07:50 PM

I know the feeling. I used to have this best friend - she was smart, pretty, had more friends than I did, knew more people than I did. She was always the teacher's favorite. Even though she was my best friend, and I was happy for her every time she achieved something awesome, I still felt jealous of her deep inside. I used to think she was better then me at everything. But then I realized that I was wrong - I was better than her at doing certain things, such as particular sports, and poetry, to name a few. What I'm trying to say is that it's normal for you to feel jealous (but you should still try to be supportive of him). And you shouldn't feel stupid or untalented because I'm sure you're not any of those things.
Life is like running a race track - you have to keep your eyes on the finish line and don't pay any attention to the other runners, don't look behind you, don't look around, because if you do that there's a likely chance of you tripping and losing the race. Never mind about the other runners, just focus on the finish line. Once you cross it, then you can turn to your fellow runners and say, "Good job!"
In other words, don't worry about what's happening with your friend, or if other people are better than you (because they're not). Just focus on your goal, and where you want to be in life. You will get there, if you push for it.
I hoped that help you, at least a little bit. Good luck with everything!

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Re: Why am I so jealous of him? - March 16th 2013, 08:44 PM

I know how you feel. When I was younger and now to I am jealous of my friends because they are prettier,friendlier than me, everybody loves them. and I have to work at making friends and it just comes so naturally to them. Anyways my suggestion would be to just focus on yourself and don't worry about what other people are doing or how talented they are. All that matters is yourself. If you ever need to talk I'm always just a pm or vm away

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Re: Why am I so jealous of him? - March 17th 2013, 06:41 AM

Hey, PJ.

I know how you feel. All my life, I've been jealous of my brother, my cousins and their friends, their lives and everything they were good at, got to do, and looked at myself and felt horrible. I know how you feel. But it's important to remind yourself that you are important because you have lots of talents inside, you haven't done everything there is to do in life. You can be successful as well. It's one of those things that come with time, you've gotta look inside yourself. Don't lose sight of yourself and who you are, your morals, and look at others and try to be like them. Be completely yourself and set goals for you and what you like. You can be just as amazing. <3
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