How does an overweight person gain confidence?

[Son of Kings]

I try to google the topic and I get the same bullshit everywhere,"you are beautiful in your own way." When did fat become beautiful to teenagers who care nothing about who you are on the inside? Am I supposed to wait for people to stop being so fucking shallow before I start dating? I'm 18 and never been kissed! All my friends look amazing, especially this one guy. Since I do feel physically attracted to guys, I can say that I would fuck the shit out of him. But that gets me to comparing myself to him and every time I walk into the gym, confident, I see the best looking people. I feel I'm doing everything right to lose weight but not seeing anything or feeling anything but despair. I feel my inability to lose weight stems from my lack of motivation, which stems from constantly comparing myself to others, which stems from lack of self confidence. They have a bunch of articles on how to gain confidence but add in "for an overweight person" and watch that number cut in half. Add in "for an overweight guy" and it will get even smaller.

So how does and overweight guy gain confidence, motivation to lose weight and stop comparing himself to other guys?

Hi, there!

I know how you feel exactly. I compare myself to other girls all the time and just hate myself. You aren't alone. I'm really sorry you go through this though.

I think the best thing you can do, is keep a calender and sorta make it a to do list for exercising and making sure you eat the right foods to lose weight. It'll feel a lot better after exercising and being able to cross it off a list, it'll make you feel like you're actually making progress, because you are. Check out this article as well for how to lose weight by eating healthier and exercises. Drinking lots of water also helps you to lose weight.

So sorry I wasn't much help. I haven't really cracked this nut either but I just wanted to let you know you aren't alone, okay? By the way, even though it sounds cheesy, you are beautiful in your own way and if your future partner or friends don't like you because of how you look, then they've showed their true colors, right? You should be loved by your personality and quirks, not your size.

Be, You.

Stay Strong <3