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The other day... - July 10th 2013, 01:43 PM

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I found out that my unbiological big brother had committed suicide. He literally meant the world to me...and I don't know what to do...I found out on Sunday, and I haven't slept since, crying every night...and the smallest things remind me of him... his brother and sister, (and my unbiological big sis, and other unbiological big bro) told me a bit.. and it turns out that his parents abused him...and I just feel horrid...I wish that I could have done something to help save him...I wished that he would have emailed or called...I would have done anything to save him...but now he's gone...and...

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Re: The other day... - July 10th 2013, 06:33 PM

I’m so sorry hun=( I can’t even imagine what you are going through right now=( Stay strong though, not only for him but also yourself. He would want you to keep marching on with life. Remember too that yes, physically he’s gone but not in spirit. He is ALWAYS with you watching over you and guiding you even if you can’t see him. He will always BE there, whether you are 14 or 99.


   
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Re: The other day... - July 10th 2013, 09:21 PM

Hi there,

I can not even begin to imagine how you must be feeling right now. I not so very long ago lost someone close to suicide and it was heart breaking and it still is. Grieving is a process. You are going to feel pain and you're going to cry and struggle to sleep and feel really lost and confused and maybe even guilty but it will start to get easier at some point. A big thing I suggest is to not be alone. Talk to people because they can support you through this and that's really important right now. I know it's hard and I wish I could say more to make it better and to make you feel better, but just know that we're here to support you and that in time it gets easier and better - it won't always be this hard, alright?

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Re: The other day... - July 11th 2013, 09:52 PM

Thank you both...
I'm starting to have nightmares too..when I actually manage to fall asleep...its a different scenario each time, but every time he asks for me to help him, and every time I can't...I didn't watch him die or anything though...and I can't tell anyone...because...I can't...and the nightmares are starting to really affect me..
   
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Re: The other day... - July 11th 2013, 11:51 PM

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Thank you both...
I'm starting to have nightmares too..when I actually manage to fall asleep...its a different scenario each time, but every time he asks for me to help him, and every time I can't...I didn't watch him die or anything though...and I can't tell anyone...because...I can't...and the nightmares are starting to really affect me..
Nightmares after something traumatic are very common. Its because you are still feeling sad about what happened and maybe even a little guilty. The important thing you you to know though is it is NOT your fault that your brother died. If you didnít know he was doing bad, there was nothing you could have done. If you did know he was doing bad, you did everything you could in the situation. You didnít make the choice for him, he did. Iím not trying to make him sound bad, he wasnít. Iím just trying to show you that we canít make other peopleís choices for them, just like they canít make our choices for us. They can help us and give us advice, sure. But in the end, we have the last say in whatever we do.


   
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