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How to - May 18th 2015, 12:25 AM

As a university student I'm finding it difficult to stay motivated to recover. It's hard work and I can't see the point in wasting what little energy I have.

At the moment, during exam time, I am finding it tough to stay safe and deal with my thoughts. I am extremely stressed and finding that my mental health is deteriorating.

I am not in a position where I wish to go back into therapy and so I am asking for tips on self-care methods rather than medical solutions.

I would prefer suggestions from personal experience where possible.

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Re: How to - May 18th 2015, 12:50 AM

Hi gorgeous.

You're at university for a reason. For it to lead you somewhere in the future. That's a reason in itself for recovery, you know? Because I know there are things you want to do when you leave uni for good, even if others don't agree with it, it's about what you want to do and if it is what you want to do ei. nursing, then go for it and let that be an aim to go into recovery.

Exam time is tough and I Can appreciate and understand that your stress levels have gotten higher during this period. Are you revising well? Because that could take some pressure of you. And also doing little nice things for yourself like going for walks, having nice baths/showers, painting your nails, reading, writing, watching a film in bed with some chocolate, to help you relax, you know? That might take some stress of too.

Its fair enough that you don't want to go back into therapy although I do want to make it aware to you that your university will probably have support on or near campus which you can always access. Self soothing is always a good thing so like the things that I have already mentioned. Taking time out for yourself and using your five senses.

Also something that I find helpful is cognitive diffusion which is where for example, you sit by a river (or imagine it) and watch the water flow by and see leaves flow on the water and you put all your worries and problems onto the leaves and watch them float by and drift of and let them go. Or maybe you can do it as a cinema screen, like the adverts coming and going. Have a google about it and you'll get some idea's.

Activation before motivation is important too. This is were you act on something, before you are motivated to do it and then when you do act on it you actually become motivated to do it. Say someone doesnt want to go to the gym but they know they need to, they will go (acting on it) and then once they get there and get in to it, they'll become motivated (motivation). That always helps me too!

If you ever want a chat I'm here for you. You can get through this and you're never alone either. SO many people love and care about you and you deserve the best so don't suffer in silence.

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Re: How to - May 18th 2015, 11:29 PM

Thank you for replying Jess <3

I love the self soothing suggestions. I'll try to do some of those things when I feel down. If I begin to care for myself physically, it's possible that it could have positive effects on my mental state.

I also absolutely love the river/leaf idea too. I'll definitely try and practice that and hope that I get better at it.

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Re: How to - May 19th 2015, 01:33 PM

Exercise is your friend, coffee is not!
That for starters.

This article has some tips

Also talk about it with friends. It helps a lot to vent. Secrets make you sick.

Set small goals with rewards.

Wright down positive things, inspirational quotes, reasons to study and the like as much as possible. Make sure you keep your goal clear and keep reminding yourself why you choose that study. Because you like it. (I hope so)

The moment I had clear what I wanted to do with my life my depression got a lot better. I want to help others with mental problems. I want to get to that psychology study. Now I have the energy to do things all day to prepare for that. Because I keep my focus on my dreams.

Helping others sometimes makes it easier to feel good about yourself and help yourself.

So PM me if You want.
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