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why cant i feel anything? - September 8th 2015, 03:15 AM

Why cant i feel anything good? All i feel is emptiness, the only other time i actually feel something is when im in pain, when my hands go numb and i cant breath and my heart litterally hurts because of all the pain and trauma. Its like this depression is taking over my life (again), like its swallowing me up. Most days im either in pain and on the verge of cutting again, or i cant feel anything at all, and im not really sure which is worse. Its like im incapable of being happy, like ill never be happy again (which i know is a lie, but still). Whats wrong with me? I just want to be happy again....


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Re: why cant i feel anything? - September 8th 2015, 03:35 AM

Hey! I am so sorry you feel this way. I can only imagine what it feels like, but things do get better, i promise.. I saw you put a bible verse. John 8:12 is one of my favorites. Always remember that God doesn't put you through anything you cant handle. God knows what you are capable of and he isn't ever going to put you through something that doesn't benefit you or help you. Sometimes things happen in life that do not make sense.. but one quote that always helps me is "everything happens for a reason".
Try thinking of things that make you happy. Make time for yourself and put everything else aside and only think about you because you are worth it. Stay strong and i hope this helps (:
"Do not fear, for i am with you; do not anxiously look about you, for i am your God. I will strengthen you, surely i will help you, surely i will uphold you with my righteous right hand." Isaiah 41:10
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Re: why cant i feel anything? - September 8th 2015, 03:47 AM

Hey Jamari,

I am really sorry that you are feeling this way. I know how difficult it can be and how overwhelming depression is. It's often really hard to imagine yourself ever being happy again, and it's so easy to let depression consume you. But I promise you that there are ways that you can feel better, and I really believe that you will be able to get through this in time.

Firstly, there is nothing wrong with you for feeling the way that you do. Feeling empty or void of emotion does not mean that there is anything wrong with you, or that you are incapable of feeling. It just means that you have been depressed for a long time, and often times we convince ourselves, whether we mean to or not, that the best way to deal with negative emotions is to not let ourselves feel them at all. You are so used to feeling depressed that you let yourself become numb in order to not feel at all. But the problem with this is that you are also not letting yourself be happy.

It's taken me a long time to learn this, but happiness does not depend on where you are at in life as much as it depends on how you perceive things. Someone who is not depressed can easily find small things to be happy about; a sunny day, a good song on the radio, making a new friend, etc. But when you are depressed, it's like you have a pair of sunglasses on that seem to dim everything; they make the happy moments less bright and not as happy, and they make the darker moments seem a thousand times darker. My point is that there are more than likely still things in your life to be happy about. Your depression is just making it more difficult to see them.

So you have to fight that. It sounds silly, but try finding at least a few things a day that make you happy. Listen to a song that brings back good memories, or read a book/watch a movie that makes you feel better. Talk to a friend who makes you laugh, or just spend time doing an activity that makes you feel good. It is still possible to have happy moments, even when you are depressed. If you let yourself have enough of these happy moments you might find that you are helping yourself to think more positively, and your sadness might not feel so consuming.

However, if you have tried these things, or other things, and feel that there is truly nothing you can do to make yourself feel better, then it might be a good idea to talk to a professional. Sometimes depression is not something that you can simply will away, and it might be something more serious that you need treatment for. There are some mental and emotional issues that someone simply cannot overcome on their own, and there is absolutely no shame in that. If you feel like seeking treatment would be beneficial to you then I would absolutely recommend talking to your parent or guardian and finding someone who can help you.

I want you to know that things can and will get better. When I was around your age I experienced some of the worst depression of my life, and I spent many years believing that I would never be happy. But things did get better, and I truly believe that they will for you too. Nothing in life is absolute; your depression won't last forever if you don't let it.

You are more than welcome to message me if you ever need to talk things through! I wish you the best of luck.


   
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Re: why cant i feel anything? - September 9th 2015, 07:28 AM

hello..

i know that it feels like this is going to continue for a long time, but i reassure you, this too will pass. You deserve better than to feel this way, and you will. You just have to get yourself involved in more positive stuff that will enable you to rediscover your positivity, and also forget about whatever haunts you. There's no point dwelling on the past, no matter how horrible it is.

It is in the past. Your future is brighter and happier. remember that. You are loved, and you'll never be abandoned.

If you wanna rant about your problems more.. i'll always be here. I'm just a pm away *hugs*


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Re: why cant i feel anything? - September 20th 2015, 12:38 AM

I'm sorry that you feel this way.. have you ever tried changing your negative thoughts into positive ones? I've tried it and it has actually helped tremendously. No matter how negative you are thinking, force yourself to change it into a positive thought and see the bright side of every situation, even if it isn't that bright. Know that you are never alone and there's help available for when you feel this upset. Keep staying strong <3
   
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Re: why cant i feel anything? - September 21st 2015, 05:57 PM

Learn to believe, and believe well. There's nothing you aren't capable of.

You are strong, wonderful, and perfect.


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As usual... pm me if you are ever having a tough day, and I'll respond immediately.

You guys deserve to be happy no matter what.. okay? You people are a bunch of lovelies ... and no matter what, you people deserve to be happy.
   
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