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Thumbs down MY sister.. [eMerjency...] - May 19th 2009, 08:32 AM

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That's the post I made in january

it's now almost June.. and it's the same, she's aLMOST 21 Year's old!!



One thing I might note.

She is scared to death ABOUT SPIDERS! She made me move into the garage because she was scared of spiders in here.

now she lives in my room and I live in the garage (her own room) and she still is ALMOST 21 Years old, and she freaks out over spiders.. I mean comon

she is very large too, getting worse and worse.. she hasn't even been outside i think for almost 4 years now.. just sleeping... she been sleeping for over 2years straight done NOTHING Just go on laptop in her room and sleep and get mad at our family and shit

Iuno what to do but im scared for her, i am religious but she wont buy it I Think but whatever..

iuno what to do .. my mom is 56 she doesn't want to kick her out because she got no where to go .. ( we live with grandma's house too) ...

I'm 17 i live in garage for now im about to leave and start my life on my own.. but im so worried about her im kinda glad that i get to leave and live my life but i'll be scared about her when im gone..

iuno what to do..


Facts:

1) she lives in house over 3 1/2 years now just sleeping.

2) hasn't been outside in over 2years.. [ only when we go to grandpa's to celebrate christmas ] she doesn't even go now because she get's in fight's on the way there and cry's and think's the car is gonna drive off and die or some weird balogny..

3) She's on her laptop 24-7.. as I am a web designer she ask's me to create website's for her and stuff it's annoying she owns 1 now but I had to buy it and she made it but it's just digging her deeper in the whole because when she owns a website she's on the computer even more 24-7... and she need's to go outside.



~Worst fears about her ~

1) She get's like some type lung disease or heart attack from being in the house all day, literally. and 3years? Something is going wrong with her heart/body i am scared of that.

2) Emotionally depressed and dangers herself and my parent's and my poor 76 yr old grandma has to deal with her.. pretty sad I think.

3) Cop's might get called and take her away and she will hide in her rooom forever probably and cry so hard maybe commit suicide before cop's take her, she's scared to go outside. too..




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HELP.. thanks

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~ sorry I am french for my english ~
Help please help my mom too..
   
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Re: MY sister.. [eMerjency...] - May 19th 2009, 09:27 AM

What would happen if your grandmother kicked her out?
It sounds like she's given up all responsibility, which isn't fair on anyone.
Have you tried figuring out what started it?
Does she realize she has a problem?
Why don't you take away her internet/laptops. You say you're a web designer, I'm sure you have the power to take away the internet.
In these situations, tough love is needed.
But you are right about her body. I'm sure she's as weak as anything due to not excersizing, and the fact she never goes out will defiantly not be helping her depression.

Good luck, and keep us posted as to whats going on.



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Re: MY sister.. [eMerjency...] - May 19th 2009, 10:58 AM

Okay, first of all it's really great that you're showing such concern for your sister. It's great that you're so caring.

As was stated in the last thread you make, it seems as though your sister really would benefit from some professional help. I know that your mother says that there is nothing that you can do but that is just completely untrue.

There is plenty of help out there for your sister to gain from. Your sister has become accustomed to sleeping all day and staying in, so it's going to to take a lot of effort to try and get out of this vicious cycle. Honestly, I think that you just need to get her out of the house and to get some help. If you can't physically get her to go outside the house for help, there is also the option of calling someone to the house. It is not easy to recover, but it is possible.

The thing is though, your sister must be willing to put some effort into this if she wants to get You can not physically force someone to change, mentally or otherwise, if they're not willing to.
   
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Re: MY sister.. [eMerjency...] - May 19th 2009, 10:56 PM

Stephanie when u said that about my mom it's true.

I told my freaking mom that I TOLD HER WHEN THIS WAS ALL HAPPENING WHEN I WAS 15 YEARS OLD I TOLD HER SHE NEEDS HELP MOM HELP HER.. and my MOM SAYS "NOTHING WE CAN DO WE CANT KICK HER OUT" "WE HAVE TO LET HER DO IT ON HER OWN"

I Agree with u stephanie.. I told her that... now now look im 17 now.. it's been 2years since AND IT"S THE SAME WAY SHE"S GETTING WORST AND WORST Maybe u should speak to my mom.. i have her cell phone # if u want.. and u need to tell her to give her help because she dont listen to me I Tell my mom to get counseling but since my sister over 18. when the counselors came over i guess my sister has the right to say no.


but yea seriously.. I agree stephanie and thanks
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today she hasn't even came outside of her bedroom.

and she doesn't need tough love because it's her fault we dont need to get into it she need's to do it on her own but i want to talk to my mom today about getting her help so she atleast goes outside and jog's the blockl and im willing to jog with her around the block if she feels more comfortable.. we tryed all this like 3years ago and she denies it..

but ya.. omg


sorry for english im french and i rushed thru that, please try toread lol
   
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Re: MY sister.. [eMerjency...] - May 19th 2009, 11:01 PM

You're welcome, Banished.

I'm sorry that your mother doesn't seem to be very helpful. Is there any way that you could possibly try and get your sister some help, such as talking to a school counsellor (if you're still at school, it may be helpful for you to talk to your school counsellor) or could you talk to your doctor about this?
If you look around in your area, you may be able to find some organisations that help with Mental Health issues. If you get into contact with one of these organisations, you may be able to get your sister some help.

I don't think that it's a good idea to give your mother's phone number to people though, I don't think that will help. If you could get another adult (who is a professional, perhaps?) to talk to her face-to-face, this could possibly help.
   
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Re: MY sister.. [eMerjency...] - May 20th 2009, 02:23 AM

Well yea i'll maybe talk to my counselor at school but i never think about her outside of my house.. like anywere i go i never think about her because i never have but whenever i get home i feel depressed to because my she's my sister and i truley do love her and i dont like to see this happening right infront of my eyes for 5years straight. there's gota be something to do..




My mom would actually probably love it if you just told her "hey im from teenhelp and your son was really worred about ur daughter " maybe this bla blah u could do " "

maybe u can say that or something if I giv u her #? please because she will really think it's pretty cool somone else cares about her daughter over the internet, lol.

bu ya anyway thanks stephanie.. <333
   
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Re: MY sister.. [eMerjency...] - May 20th 2009, 06:05 AM

She might really be unable to leave the house and in that case, she'd need professional help. Although usually it's more she has difficulty leaving familiar settings. Agoraphobia?


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Re: MY sister.. [eMerjency...] - May 20th 2009, 09:38 PM

Well she just ate all of the chips and food around the house.. now i can't even eat when I come home from school.. what a freaking pig she is, lol

Yea I think she has Agoraphobia... she's so retarded w/e I pray.. for her
   
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