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A girl that I've been talking to on the internet for a while just messaged me saying that she's going to commit suicide because of a relationship. Well, of coarse I told her not to do it and I told her that it was a really selfish thing to do and that it would hurt so many people. She's just 14 and I told her that she has so much to do in life and that though it seems that everything is against her now, chances are that it will get better. But she doesn't seem to believe me. What do I do?

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Please please help me!!

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Re: An Online Friend - July 28th 2009, 05:01 AM

Just keep talking with her and letting her know that you care and that your there for her. Maybe encourage her to call a help line. Beyond that I am not sure what else you can do because you only know her online. Can you call her maybe?
As long as you keep her talking. Does not really matter about what, the fact that someone else cares enough to talk to them is all somebody really needs most of the time.


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Re: An Online Friend - July 29th 2009, 01:20 AM

Hey Misty,

I realize how difficult having anyone in your life wanting to kill themselves - it isn't close to being easy. One important thing to remember is to keep calm with them. Sometimes they're in stages in which they believe no one cares, and that can get hard to hear and hard to cope with for yourself too. So, the best thing to do is to listen. Hear what she's saying and tell her you understand if you can. Try to make a connection where you can. Keep calm and try not to overwork yourself in the process. Where you can, try to get her to talk to someone she lives with or knows in real life - because that is her safest option. However, balance how often you suggest that as she might begin to feel you don't care. Also, try and get to understand why she wants to kill herself. That way, you can talk her out of feeling so bad about the situation.

Keep in mind that you're not obligated to deal with this kind of stress and you need to think of yourself first. If you can try to give her a few numbers in here area from our Hotlines thread. Remind her she isn't alone and if you can find out enough information on where she is, you might want to call the police for her, if you believe she won't listen to anything else than her life is what matters and sometimes we need to do what we don't want to in order to help.

Keep trying and have hope okay? If you need anything else or just want to chat about this or anything, PM me. Take care of yourself too.

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