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Angry At camp they cracked a joke... - August 7th 2009, 08:16 PM

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...about suicide. I was the only one who didn't laugh. How could you joke about something like that?! That's just.. insensitive, cruel, rude...
It made me feel even worse than usual, and he was looking straight at me when he said the "joke". I was like, what are you looking at me for?
I mean, I am suicidal and no one can save me, but why was he looking at me..?
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Re: At camp they cracked a joke... - August 7th 2009, 08:21 PM

Hey there.

Ugh, I am so sorry you had to sit through that. I've been there, many times. Some people can just be so immature. If they don't understand something, they mock it. It's completely wrong, but it's just the way some people tend to be.

Try not to let it get to you though. They're the ones in the wrong, you know? You can't get anywhere in life while being that ignorant about very serious matters. I'm betting you that not everybody actually found it funny- so many people have been touched by suicide, that there was bound to have been somebody else in the group who understoodd the true meaning of it. But most people tend to go along with the crowd, and will laugh just to 'fit in'.

I highly doubt he meant anything by looking at you; it may have been pure coincidence. Don't dwell on it, he was just being immature, and perhaps just wanted to see your reaction in particular for whatever reason. But well done for not laughing along for the sake of it!

I think it's best to just put it behind you. Things like this happen a lot, because some people just don't understand. (Or don't want to understand.)

You're so much better than them. Stay strong. <3
   
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Re: At camp they cracked a joke... - August 7th 2009, 08:35 PM

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I highly doubt he meant anything by looking at you; it may have been pure coincidence.

It was just weird because he looked over at me just before he said it, and while he was saying it he kept looking at me. o_O




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We knew someone who did suicide, but I think most people have forgotten about it. I know I sure haven't.

It was just so... inconsiderate of him to make that kind of joke, because it's not a joke. It's very real, and many people are affected by it, and it wasn't appropriate.
   
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Re: At camp they cracked a joke... - August 7th 2009, 08:50 PM

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It was just so... inconsiderate of him to make that kind of joke, because it's not a joke. It's very real, and many people are affected by it, and it wasn't appropriate.
I know, it was completely and utterly wrong of him. But that's why you can't react or let yourself get upset/angry about it. He wanted a reaction from everyone, that's why he told the joke. You're just giving him what he wanted by letting it bother you.

There are a lot of people like him in the world, which sucks, truly. But you just have to do your best to realize that you are better than him, and not let him get you down.
   
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Re: At camp they cracked a joke... - August 7th 2009, 08:53 PM

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There are a lot of people like him in the world, which sucks, truly. But you just have to do your best to realize that you are better than him, and not let him get you down.

The ironic thing is, is that he thinks he's better than everyone else.
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Re: At camp they cracked a joke... - August 7th 2009, 11:00 PM

Hey,

That really sucks but Nicola is right; by letting it bother you you are giving him the attention he wants. There could be a lot of reasons he looked at you while saying it 1) maybe he knew how strongly you were affected by the person who commited suicide 2) maybe he wasn't looking at you on purpose you just felt like he was (I've had that happen to me a lot) and on and on it could go. Try not to think about it too much because in the end it is what he wanted.

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Re: At camp they cracked a joke... - August 7th 2009, 11:05 PM

The best thing you can do is try to not let it drag you down, that was insensitive and he just wants attention by the sounds of it. Some people are so immature and there not worth a second thought, I'm sorry you had to sit through that.
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Re: At camp they cracked a joke... - August 9th 2009, 03:42 PM

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Well, I didn't really know him, and I was kind of expecting it because he had something bad happen to him, (he accidently shot himself in the face while hunting, and it blew out his face) but I don't think he knew about him.
   
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Re: At camp they cracked a joke... - August 11th 2009, 05:13 AM

I think that's horrible. I know people who joke about self-injury and suicide. It bothers me! It really sucks because you can't really do anything about it. People will joke about stuff like that, and you just have to try to not let it bother you so much.
   
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Re: At camp they cracked a joke... - August 11th 2009, 04:27 PM

its happened to me loads
i was at a party and a guy who should of bein my friend, sort of found out that i SH.
and we were putting more music on, and he said

"put that that song on, Last Resort, by Papa Roach for Lea"

you know that song
"Cut my life into pieces
I've reached my last resort, suffocation, no breathing
Don't give a fuck if I cut my arms bleeding
Would it be wrong, would it be right
If I took my life tonight, chance are that I might
Mutilation out of sight and I'm contemplating suicide"

he said it in front of everyone, but no-one cared enough to ask after it.
people are immature and stupid.
its like everyone that pickin on 'emos' its all completly ridiculas.
becasue someone wears dark cloths then they cut themeselves for no reason apparently.
its all stupid.
people that dont understand take the mick out of things they dont get
i know its difficult but try to ignore it
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Re: At camp they cracked a joke... - August 11th 2009, 05:30 PM

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becasue someone wears dark cloths then they cut themeselves for no reason apparently.
its all stupid.
Uh huh. And even if you don't cut yourself, but wear dark clothes, then you're still being emo. I guess I'm "emo", then. (Someone even asked me if I was emo. ._.)
Ugh, people make me mad.
   
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Re: At camp they cracked a joke... - August 11th 2009, 05:42 PM

I'm one of the most cheerful people you will ever meet, but have had lots of trouble with cutting.
So, one day during German class someone called my friend emo. Then she said, "No, I'm not emo. If you want to talk about being emo, then you may want to aim that at Emily." (Not exact words but pretty much what was said.) I turned to her and go, "Wait, what?" And she told me, "You cut yourself, you're closer to emo then I am."
I was furious.
I understand how upset/angry you would get over someone's suicide joke. There are some people that I will take those kinds of jokes from but if it's someone who should know better, then I get pretty angry. Most of the time, I just let them go because it's people who don't know that I've been suicidal or cut myself and most people just don't think about how much that could affect someone.


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Re: At camp they cracked a joke... - August 11th 2009, 05:49 PM

Hey. I'm sorry to hear about this. People can be so rude sometimes.
That's not something to joke about or laugh about.
People always make jokes that hurt me too. They're not laughing matter.
I think you should talk to him about it, no matter how hard it may be.
Or even tell him that it wasn't a funny joke. anything to let him know it was rude and uncalled for.

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Re: At camp they cracked a joke... - August 11th 2009, 06:09 PM

Hey,

That is definitely not a joking matter! I have lost several friends due to suicide, and I am still not over it. I couldn't imagine having a joke said about it. Would you be able to maybe talk to the leader at the camp, let them know what's going on and that you find it rude? That would be the best route to go with this. I hope your holding out okay, if you need anything PM me

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Re: At camp they cracked a joke... - August 11th 2009, 09:23 PM

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Would you be able to maybe talk to the leader at the camp

Well, camp has already ended, so I can't really do that. /"





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Or even tell him that it wasn't a funny joke. anything to let him know it was rude and uncalled for.
When he said it and looked over, I gave him a look and looked away, so I think he might've known I was upset over it.
   
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