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Unhappy Depression...is depressing.... - August 8th 2009, 06:15 PM

It's very upsetting when you're depressed and can't talk to anyone about it...

A few weeks ago, the most amazing thing happened...my boyfriend proposed to me. It was too good to be true, really...

But recently, I've been having a hard time. My mother has been mean to me, I think my cat is dying, and I can't seem to get a job...

Well, I took it out on my boyfriend last night. I didn't mean to, but he said something rather insensitive to me, and I started yelling at him. I felt better when I did, and then I decided to apologize to him because I felt bad that I hurt him.

He didn't accept my apology. He said he had been thinking a lot about this relationship, he thinks it's unhealthy and that I have a severe mental illness that is going to make his life impossible...if he thought that, why did he even propose to me? Why did he toy with my feelings like that? He said he loves me but that I'm a terrible girlfriend...I told him I was ashamed of that and he said "don't be ashamed of who you are."

I had been very depressed several months ago, and he cared for me and showed me that life was really good, and brought me out of it...and he has now plunged me back into this depression.

He has given me a second chance, because I said I could prove to him that we're meant to be - which I really believe we are. But I'm scared to death. I'm scared of losing the only good thing in my life, and if I talk to him about it he'll break up with me for being "mentally unstable".

He says I have to go see a therapist. But I don't drive, I still live with my parents (who would never take me to see a therapist, believe me), and I'm kept under lock and key, literally.

So, I have 2 questions:

1) is there anyone I could talk to when I'm having a hard time?

and

2) does anyone know of an online therapist? A free one?

In general, I just need some cheering up...I feel awful....


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Re: Depression...is depressing.... - August 8th 2009, 07:21 PM

everyone says things in an argument that they dont mean.
but i think you need to talk to your boyfriend an explain that depression is
hard to just deal with and even with therapy it is hard to control.
he just cant be insensitive because you have something you can control.

if you need someone to talk to instead of a therapist, try local preist, friends
your boyfriend should be the one to support you but if not id wonder why you are with him.

someone therapist take insurence and its free, so id check that out.

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Re: Depression...is depressing.... - August 9th 2009, 01:38 AM

hey christine.

actually its not "mentally unstable" . everyone has dealed with a lot in the past, and it may result in emotional stress.. that needs to be let out. that is in NO way mental unstability remember that some people say the darndest things when they're angry or just not happy, and this might be one of those cases.

i think that you should talk to someone who's understanding, someone you know you can confide to.. because having someone to listen is really comforting

oh, and you can talk to me too remember a lot of us here are so willing to listen, alright.

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Re: Depression...is depressing.... - August 9th 2009, 04:18 AM

The closet thing to an online therapist is not a therapist, but it might help you. You can email: Jo@samaritans.org

It is a group of volunteers for depression/suicide prevention.



   
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Re: Depression...is depressing.... - August 9th 2009, 04:50 AM

Hi. Look, I think before your boyfriend proposed he was sure but AFTER he proposed,
he isnt sure. Remember, You both are young like, 17? its probley normal Beacause lets face it, with some marriages and proposes ITS STRESSFUL.
But, it still DOES NOT, AND I MEAN, DOES NOT GIVE HIM THE RIGHT TO DO THAT TO YOU AT ALL. Men actullay mature WAY LATER THEN GIRLS,

AND MEN MESS WITH YOUR HEAD. TRUST ME ON THAT I KNOW FROM EXSPERIENCE
WITH BOYFRIEND, AND BEST FRIEND.
AND ON TOP OF THAT. YOU HAD A RIGHT TO YELL AT HIM.
HE SAID SOMETHING INSENSITIVE! I THINK EVERY GIRL DESEARVES
TO DO THAT IF THEYRE GONNA BE RUDE LIKE THAT.
ITS NORMAL SWEETIE.

and for him to say you have a sever mental illness? thats emotional abuse.
he has no right AT ALL TO SAY THAT. Husbands and boyfriends dont do that.
husbands and boyfriends are meant to be there for you nomatter what.
and help you along the way. saying anything rude and insensitive just lets you down.
and saying it will make his life impossible?
what a jerk!

AND SAYING YOUR A TERRIBLE GIRLFRIEND?! THAT IS SICL HE SHOULD NOT BE
DOING THAT TO YOU.

SO I TELL YOU WHAT. IF YOU FIND A COUNCELER THAT YOU CAN GO TO OR EVEN ONLINE OR ANYWHERE, SAY TO HIM YOU KNOW WHAT? HOW BOUT LETS *BOTH* GO. So it can help your relationship. also, if hes saying that. Then he probley isnt the 1 for you. and i know thats hard for you to hear or read. but its true!

im not saying anythings impossible, But he may and probley will abuse you when
your older.

and i would talk to him about your depression. and make him understand and relize that your not crazy or mentally unstable. You just have a struggle right now that you need to deal with. and talk to him about what hes said so far. how you feel about him proposing, then being rude. and anything thats bothering you. and if he doesnt like it then you can tell him,

you know what? kiss my Rosy butt cause you obviousley dont care
and im gonna go make my life worth while. without you

haha email me if you want im always available to talk!
No im not sure if theirs any online councelers, But theirs recources here, and other places like on here:

Help desk, get advise, ect. Have a great day1 hope your doing fine!

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Re: Depression...is depressing.... - August 9th 2009, 04:59 AM

If you ever want to just talk, I am happy to listen
   
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Re: Depression...is depressing.... - August 9th 2009, 07:15 AM

Bad news, everyone - he just broke up with me. I really am worthless...

Thanks for all your replies...I really do appreciate that people are trying to help...


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