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No more - September 1st 2009, 11:05 AM

Im 16 i shouldnt be watching kids every chance I get, or cleaning her house when its not my mess. I do everything for that woman. I have school, tennis, softball and all that junk going on at the same time while im still trying to find time to fit my boyfriend in. Im tired. That woman doesnt give a shit about me or my little brothers and she uses money that ive borrowed against me to ground me until its paid off. That woman is my mother, and shes the worst one youll ever meet. Calling me worthless and stupid before i go to school every morning is not how i wanna live my life. Ive tried talking to her about it, numerous times actually and she never stops. Im to the point where I hate my life and I cry everytime i wake up and go to bed. I cant take it anymore. Shes worn me down just like she planned and im done with everything.
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Re: No more - September 1st 2009, 11:17 AM

Hi Hanna! *hug*

I'm sorry you're stuck in this mess. I really am! I actually know how you feel.
I thought the same of my mom for many years.
But I don;t think all that happened to you happen to me.My mom never paid atenttion to ME or MY feelings. She did not understand that I'm human too.....
It took me 4 years to get through to her. But now, she's finally getting me, little by little.
You have to work through it really slowly as the situation could be explosive and emotions will run wild. You could aslso start off, by loooking at things from her point of view, because, for all you know, she might be feeling horrid about some other stuff and she's taking it out on you, and doesn't know how to handle it any other way!
The thing is, that you really have to work with it, and first of all, accept her the way she is. Then you can make her understand.
I'm not sure how else I can help..
But if you need anything, please feel free to drop by or om me!

Best of luck!!
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Re: No more - September 1st 2009, 03:58 PM

hey there.
im sorry your in such bad situation.
you need to talk to her, a serious talk, and explain to her that
you are the mom and your are suppose to be taking care of me and my siblings
not the other way around. i need you to be there for me and my brothers.
she needs to understand and not put her life on you.

or maybe sit down with a consulor and talk about it, because either way you need the situation to change.



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Re: No more - September 1st 2009, 09:58 PM

Ive tried talking to her about this before and she never listens, even a counselor told her that she needs to start acting like a mom. She started acting horrible when she started dating this guy tod...my moms still married to my dad. Im so stressed about everything
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Re: No more - September 1st 2009, 10:09 PM

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Ive tried talking to her about this before and she never listens.
So keep trying.
I know that sounds like some pretty lousy advice, but don't give up on trying to get through to her. Family is super hard to deal with at times, and a lot of times they simply just won't hear you out. There could be a number of reasons why your mom does not seem to take your feelings to heart. Maybe she's overly stressed with her life, and demands a bit of extra help because of this?

Since your mom obviously does not fully realize what she is putting you through, maybe you should be talking to someone other than your mom. Have you ever considered talking to a counselor who can help you deal with the stress your mom causes in your life? It wouldn't hurt to talk to someone who may be able to help you better communicate with her. The key to everything is communication. Your mom sounds like she is exceptionally hard to communicate with, but there are people who would be more than willing to help you get through to her.

Everything will work out just fine for you, it just might take a bit of extra effort to make things better between you and your mom. But that doesn't mean it's impossible. If you ever need to talk, feel free to PM me. Hang in there. x





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