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Everyone only wants me for my money... - January 19th 2010, 05:58 AM

I just broke up with Clyde who was there for me and the money. Now all I get is dudes comming at me for the money.... I cant take it no more. It has made my depression kick in so hard! I am lost I dont think I will find anyone


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Re: Everyone only wants me for my money... - January 19th 2010, 06:05 AM

Well how do people know you have money?

But anyways, don't let these guys get to you. Prove to them that they're being superficial. For example, ask them trivial questions about yourself, things that people who even know you a bit would know (i.e. favourite bands, colours, movies, etc.), and if they can't respond, you have full right to turn them down, in any way you wish.

Being used hurts, I know since I've been used, though not for money. But eventually, if they realize you're not going to take it, they'll be less inclined to bother you. Stand up for yourself, and you'll be just fine. Not to mention, if guys who are genuinely interested see that you're a strong woman, they'll probably respect that.
   
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Re: Everyone only wants me for my money... - January 19th 2010, 11:06 AM

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I just broke up with Clyde who was there for me and the money. Now all I get is dudes comming at me for the money.... I cant take it no more. It has made my depression kick in so hard! I am lost I dont think I will find anyone
Hi Anna~Bell!!

Permit me to be bold and blunt!!

UNLESS those guys are robbing you at gun point - the entire 'money thing' is YOUR FAULT. You are a sap and a sucker. And there are a lot of people in this world [Sadly] who are more than willing to take advantage of that. Does that sound mean? I'm only saying that because for most of MY life I've been a 'sap and a sucker' TOO. Everything [And I do mean everything] was 'my treat'. It got to the point where no one even asked anymore - they KNEW that I was going to pay. [For dinners, for movies, for gas in the car and even for holidays, etc.] I insisted on paying for everything because I couldn't imagine anyone wanting to be with ME unless I did. I even bought my friend a CAR!! How silly is that?! [An old used car - but it was still a car!!] And of course - I loaned [i.e. let those so-called 'friends' basically steal from me] thousands of dollars. And 95% of those dollars I will never see again. What a horrible thing I did to my self esteem. And like you [Most likely] I was always expecting something in return. I was expecting THEM to make ME feel LOVED. But it doesn't work that way. No one can make YOU love YOU.

So for now - put aside your desire to find someone else and work on becoming the person YOU need to 'be there' for YOU!! Because until you do - you're going to be 'easy pickings' for any 'charming guy' who happens upon the door step of your heart!!

Whatever money you happen to have - lock most of it away into some term deposit. [Or something] BECOME 'broke' [i.e. have as little 'liquid cash' as possible] so you're not in a position to be everyone's personal walking 'piggy bank'. And when you're ready to consider having someone new in your life - keep MONEY out of the equation. Pay your own way. And make sure that they are paying THEIR own way. And never loan anyone anything. And don't give anyone any money either. Unless it's a GENUINE emergency of course. [And I do mean 'genuine' - not a, "I'm out of cigarettes again', 'emergency'!!] Some guys will dump you like a hot potato the moment they realize that you're not an 'easy mark'. But HURRAY to THAT - I say!! Let them go and wait for a 'good guy' to come into your life.

Right now - you might be thinking to yourself, "That's fine for YOU Craig - but I could never be THAT mean!!" Who are you kidding? You are THAT mean to YOURSELF - ALL THE TIME!! See what I mean?!

I hope that helps.

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Re: Everyone only wants me for my money... - January 19th 2010, 04:03 PM

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