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I want to help people - January 28th 2010, 08:06 PM

i just want to help people, that simple.
i have issues, and i have a freind for that, and im so glad i do, but i just feel like i cant help other people, people who need it.

i feel like im just wasting other people's time, and even though they say im not, i always feel like i am, i feel like a burden to everyone i open up to (right now im down to two people) so i shut myself down more and more, even though i know thats probably gonna lead to my death, i just dont know


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I guess there comes a point where you just have to stop trying because it hurts to much to hold on anymore


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Re: I want to help people - January 28th 2010, 08:23 PM

I understand completley what your saying..I honestly don't know how many people know the REAL me but I can tell you that its between 0-4 people. About helping people I totally understand on that part too. I'd rather help someone else then help myself or get help, because knowing I made someone feel better even though I can't do it for myself is a great feeling. I think it's great you want to help people. I also know what its like when you talk about your problems and then you say sorry over and over because your afraid your bothering them..(hypicritical statment following)..at some point you just have to tell yourself that if they say it's fine then it's fine and you don't need to worry about it.

I honestly think you should try and open yourself up a little at a time instead of slowley closing off. I was a hyper little girl shit happened and I started closing my self off slowley and now I'm pretty much sealed tight and it's not a good idea..Because you'll blow up at some point...


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Re: I want to help people - January 28th 2010, 10:26 PM

Thanks

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I guess there comes a point where you just have to stop trying because it hurts to much to hold on anymore


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Re: I want to help people - January 31st 2010, 08:24 PM

Whatever is necessary is never unwise.

If you need to talk to someone, talk to them. If they are supportive of you talking to them to help you through what you are going through then talk to them. Don't shut yourself from them completely.

And its good you would like to help people. So obviously you can start off here on teen help and then after sometime you can include helping the homeless and volunteering somewhere.
   
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Re: I want to help people - February 4th 2010, 06:49 AM

i know exactly how your feeling i feel exactly the same way so i want you to know that you are not alone. I also agree with littlemisscomplicacted.
I am on everynight so if you need anyone to talk to you can eather pm or vm me and i'll get back to you.
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Re: I want to help people - February 4th 2010, 06:38 PM

Hey there,
I know you are trying to think of other people and try not to burden them, but think of yourself. No one wants you to end your life and everyone who is helping you WANTS to help you. If they didn't, they simply wouldn't reply. I know it's hard, but you need to try to open up to more people. If you don't, you may never feel better and neither of us want that. Think about it, if you open up to the right people, they can find you the help you need, then you won't have to worry about it anymore. It's okay to tell people how you feel. We care about you and that's why we are trying to help you. You can help people AND get help for yourself. It's perfectly fine to do both! Remember, none of us are perfect and we all need someone to talk to and that's OK. If you shut yourself down and don't talk to anyone about how you are feeling and then end up ending your life, you will make everyone feel like they couldn't help you no matter how much they wanted to. Try to make a goal for yourself which you can focus on. Maybe open up to someone new once a month or in two months you want to have told atleast one family member. Setting goals for yourself can make it easier to set your mind to one thing and try hard to accomplish that. I know you can do it, just believe in yourself.
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Re: I want to help people - February 9th 2010, 03:14 AM

I don't know if I want help.
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Re: I want to help people - February 9th 2010, 03:37 AM

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Whatever is necessary is never unwise.

If you need to talk to someone, talk to them. If they are supportive of you talking to them to help you through what you are going through then talk to them. Don't shut yourself from them completely.

And its good you would like to help people. So obviously you can start off here on teen help and then after sometime you can include helping the homeless and volunteering somewhere.
Definitely. Anybody who is unreasonable enough to not help you through any difficulties that you are having isn't really worth having as a friend. Friends are supposed to be there to help you, so by all means: go ahead and talk with somebody if you need to. If you know how to approach uncomfortable topics slowly (and allow them to back out if they are uncomfortable) you'll probably find some people who are willing to help.

There are times when everybody needs some help. That is absolutely okay. I understand that sometimes you feel a little bit of an annoyance when you keep asking people for help (or just a talk about something a little uncomfortable) but if they didn't want to help, they wouldn't agree to help you.


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