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Unhappy I'm average...and only that - February 7th 2010, 04:27 AM

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I don't know where this belongs...and I don't really know where I belong.

I'm average looking; Not ugly and not gorgeous. I grew up in a home with an older sister who was always nagging me about "being a dirtball" and such. She was gorgeous. Then, my pudgy annoying little cousin...all of a sudden outgrew me, became a thin STUNNINGLY beautiful girl with perfect skin, beautiful eyes, a great smile, and probably the most toned and smooth skin I've ever seen. My other two older cousins were both gorgeous and thin with great complexions and hair.

Then I grew up with this girl as my best friend, who....rudely....I always thought I was prettier than her. Yet, she was the one always getting compliments and hit-on by guys.

Now I have friends and acquaintances who I envy and when compared to by a friend, they are considered "gorgeous" or "perfect" and I am "pretty" or "not bad".

My boyfriend, who is the one that matters most, says I'm beautiful and none of the other girls are even pretty.

But I just keep comparing myself. I want a better complexion, I want to be taller, I want to have brighter eyes instead of these boring dark brown plain eyes.

I want to be able to FEEL like I'm goo enough for him. But I don't...
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Re: I'm average...and only that - February 7th 2010, 04:41 AM

I know PRECISELY that feeling. I grew up hating how I looked because I was chubby and average looking. As I grew older I started to view myself as simply fat and ugly, though nothing much had really changed. I always thought that every other girl was prettier than me. It was obvious to me why no guy had ever even looked in my direction. But then a few summers ago, I came across this quote by Gerard Way (lead singer of My Chemical Romance): "Hey girls, you're beautiful. Don't look at those stupid magazines with stick like models. Eat healthy and exercise. That's all. Don't let anyone tell you you're not good enough. You are good enough; you are too good. Love your family with all your heart and listen to it. You are gorgeous, whether you're a size 3 or a size 14. It doesn't matter what you look like on the outside, as long as you're a good person; as long as you respect others. I know it's been told hundreds of times before, but it's true."

It made me cry. And since then, I've seen myself as pretty, just not stereotypically. I've stopped comparing myself to everyone else. I'm NOT someone else, so why should I compare myself? That's what I think you need to realize. And if your boyfriend says you're beautiful, he means it. I think you should trust him. And trust what Gerard said.


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Re: I'm average...and only that - February 7th 2010, 07:37 AM

Looks mean nothing, most Beauty fades. I'd rather an average girl with an amazing being then a sexy girl with nothing going for her.
Looks mean nothing, and good enough is just a saying if he loves you he loves you and thats all that matters.
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Re: I'm average...and only that - February 7th 2010, 05:06 PM

You are definately not alone in feeling this way. To tell you the truth, I think EVERYONE wants to change something about themself. Whether it's one thing, or a hundred things, you are not alone. Like everyone else said, it's on the inside that counts. Yes, it's hard to believe that, especially for girls, but it's true. You don't need to be a size zero with perfect skin or anything because it's who you ARE as a person that matters. Listen to what your boyfriend says, that you are pretty and it doesn't matter how those other girls look. Because it's only you that matters, and you are perfect just the way you are.

Whatever it is, chances are I've been there.
If I can make it out, you can too.
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