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Unhappy Feeling Helpless - March 1st 2010, 12:10 AM

Hey Guys.
My best friend does SH and used to be pretty depressed. She stopped for a few weeks, and wasn't depressed for a while back, but she's starting cutting and is slipping away again. I try my best to be there for her, but I can't drive and neither can she, and there's just no way to talk sometimes. I feel so helpless lately..... I, myself, cut, but try to get her to stop.... I don't know what to do half the time. Can anybody please offer advice?
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Re: Feeling Helpless - March 1st 2010, 12:46 AM

I think that maybe you need to tell an older adult that could help you and your friend
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Re: Feeling Helpless - March 1st 2010, 02:25 AM

Hey there Cassie,

First of all, welcome to Teenhelp! I see you learned how to travel around the site, which is great!

I'm really sorry that you and your friend are struggling. Self harm can be extreamly difficult to overcome. Sometimes you can stop for months and be triggered and cave in. That's okay. Self harm is an addiction, so it takes time and effort to quit.

Your friend is very lucky to have a friend like you. You seem to be a very caring person. Unfrotunately, we are usually most helpful when we ourselves are feeling okay. I know you want to help her but you have to remember to get help for yourself too. Have you thought about going to therapy or talking to a trusted adult?

I know that feeling helpless can be a hard feeling to have. No matter how long you guys can't talk, I'm sure your friend knows that your there for her. It's okay to not have the answers all the time. No one does. One of the best things to do is listen. Maybe if she can vent out her feelings, she won't self harm as much. Of course, this might work for you as well. Journaling and blogging also can provide the same help.

I'm going to give you a link. This link will send you to a TH page about alternatives to self harm. Read over them. Try them. Offer some of them to your friend. Personally, I find squeezing ice to be most effective.


I really believe that talking to a trusted adult about attending some therapy sessions could help you. Being depressed isn't something you should face alone, and neither should your friend.

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