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anger/frustration I thought this was gone - March 11th 2010, 06:44 PM

I need to give some background first

I am a logical thinker I have problems with anything that is not logical so basicly any form of communication.

when I was a kid in grades 1-5 I was always behind and everyone hated me for it I was bullyed by everyone they took every chance they could get to make me feel worse. every emotion I showed ether got me in trouble or embarised so I stopped showing emotion I still can't show any emotion.

it was realy frustrating that I wasn't able to do the things that everyone seemed to find to easy it caused paranoia and anger, I can't describe how much I hated them I can't emagin a more powerful emotion or feeling I wanted everyone including myself to die


I changed schools after grade 6 managed to blend in with the new school and stoped hateing everyone

by highschool I forgave everyone but the frustration of not being able to communicate, to a lesser extent, was still there

that was the back story


today I am in my last year of highschool all math based courses doing ok in them

today in physics we had to do a lab report

I hate labs because they take a subject I am good at and enjoy and bring it into the area of communication

but this time is was to be done in class by hand

I have not done any writing by hand in years

I had trouble and in the limited time I couldn't do a good job and the feelings of anger and frustration came back all of them my imagination ran away I pictured the grade I would get from this and the reactions of people around me. it was like going back in time, my anger focused on one person, no reason for it it was just because he was the most likely to make a big thing of this

I had to restrain myself I was so angry at this guy for something he hadn't even done yet just something I thought he might do based on past expereince

I thought all that was over


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Re: anger/frustration I thought this was gone - March 12th 2010, 12:38 AM

What do you mean you are a logical thinker ? Do you mind clarifying that ?

And by the way, communication involves emotion, and emotions are a core in humanity.

And you said you have problems with anything that is not logical. Well man, emotions are different and they are a big part of you. If you strip them out you cease to be human.

And that issue of wanting that other guy to die is your emotions running unchecked because you are trying to "strip" them out. So you need to accept your emotions and learn to show them. Whether you like it or not you actually show them through your actions.


I came here to help out, so if you wanna talk or just need someone to bounce ideas or issues off of or something else then send me a message and I will reply as soon as I can.

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Re: anger/frustration I thought this was gone - March 12th 2010, 02:20 AM

I have emotion I just have trouble showing it

as for logical thinking

I am good at math computers chemistry physics and I suck at writing talking and any other form of art

communication is not logical I am not very good at it


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Re: anger/frustration I thought this was gone - March 12th 2010, 11:56 PM

Ok now, I assume when you say communication you mean talking to people not the book study meaning. With this, you just have to know yourself better. Now understand one thing and make sure you accept it : Logic alone will not help you here. And as for that you need to let logic go for a moment. And just learn to listen to your emotions. Listen to your heart.

Here is a very very odd question(and i ask because of what you write) do you laugh ? Have you seen something that makes you happy ? Have you smiled ?

NB : These may seem as if they are immaterial to ask but in order for you to know how to show emotion, you have to learn to listen to one which is good and easy to reach/listen to.

If the answer to those questions above are yes then it is basically you just don't know how to behave around people and you do show emotions when alone, it seems you just forget you did when you are alone.

If the answer is no, then you have to learn how to listen to them and know what is what. And emotions are not an off/on switch. You just can't decide to listen when you haven't been. The reason you showed the other emotions(anger/frustration) is because in the back of your mind, you just "forgot" about them. So it won't be easy unless something triggers them. And thus the emotions you showed were triggered and you felt them but didn't show them. And they were running unchecked.

And that is the point of the questions. So that if you had known something that makes you laugh/happy then you could feel/"listen" to that emotion and then learn how to let it show(But of course to be controlling yourself).


I came here to help out, so if you wanna talk or just need someone to bounce ideas or issues off of or something else then send me a message and I will reply as soon as I can.

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