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My friend is always depressed - April 6th 2010, 01:29 AM

Okay, well I am friends with one of the lonely kids at my school, he doesn't have many friends and often talks about how he is depressed and his life is no good. Today he told me he thinks he should "go emo" as he said. While we're not the closest of friends, he messages me daily and I feel bad that I'm one of the only people he really talks to.

If anyone has any tips that could help me convince him that there is always hope out there and it will come to him, that would be great. I'm worried about him and want to help him out the best way possible.

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Re: My friend is always depressed - April 6th 2010, 12:44 PM

The best thing you can do is show him that you care... encourage him, and be there for him. Love is invaluable. Be the miracle!


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Re: My friend is always depressed - April 6th 2010, 12:58 PM

You may also want to try taking him out more, perhaps out bowling or something along those lines. If he has a chance to meet people outside of your school, he may realize that there is more out there than what happens at school.

It may also help to point out positive things to him, particularly about his life. It's easy for anyone to focus on only the negative and think it can never get better. If he makes an adjustment in how he thinks, he may start to see things differently. It may not hurt either to be upfront with him and let him know that "going emo' is basically only him ensuring that all he see's is negative and that he won't be helping himself.
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Re: My friend is always depressed - April 7th 2010, 05:55 PM

That is awesome that you are there for him. I understand that that is such a big burden and weight to carry. Just know that if you feel as though you cannot help him enough or things he is saying are dangerous, you should tell a guidance counselor at your school or another adult.


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Re: My friend is always depressed - April 7th 2010, 06:15 PM

Hey,

Maybe you could try to talk to him about what in his life is not good. having someone talk to can be a massive help in making someone feel better and he sounds like he trusts you. Another thing you could try doing is introducing him to some of your friends and getting him involved with more people at school. I think that just knowing that he has someone that is there for him who cares will help.



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Re: My friend is always depressed - April 10th 2010, 10:31 AM

i agree with what the rest of the people say... anything that can help him to open up and gain confidence in himself is of the order today.

keep doing whatever you are doing.. and support him . eventually he's definitely gonna improve for the better.

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Re: My friend is always depressed - April 10th 2010, 12:22 PM

Ahh, like Darren above me,
I agree with what everyone says.
Because I know what it's like when a friend is depressed and suicidal.
I've had to deal with that before.

The best thing to do is to let them know that you're there for them,
And show them that you care.
That they mean something, and that life is worth living.
Keep talking to them, because the worst thing that can happen when you're depressed is be left alone and feel even worse.

So, yeah. (:
Good luck, and I wish you the best!


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Re: My friend is always depressed - April 10th 2010, 01:29 PM

Hey, i just wanted to sayhow happy i am that your there for him.
Even though u dont feel that your really close, you dont know how much you mean to him.
Other people might just desert him when he reaches out for help, but you didnt.
So thanks for that
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Re: My friend is always depressed - April 15th 2010, 11:28 PM

As the "depressed friend", I can certainly say there've been a couple of people who have been all "you're too depressing to hang around with!".
I know how awful it must be, as my best friends get depressed sometimes, but just try to encourage him and be really nice. The support of a friend is definitely what he needs right now.
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