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My mom has depression. How can I help? - April 24th 2010, 04:54 PM

As the title says, my mom has depression. I don't know what to do. I suffer from depression myself, I am in therapy, on meds and while those help a lot, I still can't find the strength to leave my room or eat. My step-dad is a selfish asshole; whenever she says how upset she is, he says "why is it always about you?", despite the fact that she's the only one working and still manages to do more than half the house hold chores.

I really admire her, I really do. I love her more than anything, but the tiniest things stress me out. Someone asking me if I'm hungry will cause me to descend into a seven year old's voice and attitude and I have to go be alone for a couple hours. I've tried helping around the house, but it scares me. I really want to help her, but how can I? I don't want her to kill herself; after all, there is only so much one can take, no matter how much they love the people on earth.

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Re: My mom has depression. How can I help? - April 24th 2010, 05:38 PM

Hey there,

I think that it's absolutely wonderful that you're looking out for your mother and that you're wanting to help her with her depression. That's really great of you.
I think that because you suffer from depression yourself, perhaps you already have the insight of what your mother is going through, which should help you understand. It also, unfortunately, does mean that you may find it more difficult to help her. That's okay though, as long as you are trying.
Simply being there, attempting to help the best you can and telling your mother that she is loved and that you're willing to help her will be such a huge support to her, I am sure. Perhaps you could ask her if there's anything you could specifically do for her that may help?
You could also consider trying to start something new that you and your mother could do together, such as a new hobby, which could help you bond throughout recovery.

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Re: My mom has depression. How can I help? - April 24th 2010, 06:20 PM

The best thing you can do for her is let her know you care. Be a listening ear when she needs it, encourage her to do right things. Also don't point out the bad, point out the positive and maybe you suggest her to go see a counselor. But the best thing you can do is listen and encourage her to do what is right.
   
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Re: My mom has depression. How can I help? - April 24th 2010, 06:42 PM

Thanks, but my mom really doesn't like spending time with me. It's not that she doesn't love me; somewhere deep down under all the crap, I know she does, and so does she. But she is just so messed up from her horrible childhood that I don't think she can express it, and being around me seems to remind her of that.

Whenever I try to be a listening ear, it always turns into what I'm not doing, and I really can't take the pressure. I think therapy would really benefit her, but I don't know how to suggest it, and how to make sure she doesn't just waltz off all angry.

Thank you for all your help. It made me feel better, like I wasn't being a completely horrible child.


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Re: My mom has depression. How can I help? - April 24th 2010, 07:02 PM

Hiya

Im really sorry about whats going on. The best thing you can do is be there for her, and let her know that. You both love each other and it wouldnt hurt to tell each other that.
Try spending time with each other, even if it something simple like playing scrabble or a card game.

If you are both suffering from depression, why dont you do family counselling?.....you can bring it up when you are both calm, or write in a letter how you feel and what you would like.....

....I really hope things turn out.........remember it takes time, and dont rush, just let nature take its course.


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Re: My mom has depression. How can I help? - April 25th 2010, 01:04 AM

I toally understand how youre feeling i went through the same thing with my mother, all i can tell you is to be there for her all the time make sure you tell her that you care a lot for her. Has she seen a doctor?



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