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Worried about my friend - advice needed - May 10th 2010, 08:59 PM

My best friend is the kind of guy who always seems happy.
He's pretty darn good-looking, successful with girls, everybody likes him.
He's very clever and talented... but I think he might be depressed... this is some stuff he's said on MSN, but he seems happier at school around people etc.

Regardless, I still detest my life
I've had two fathers that I meant nothing to
one of whom is trying to rob us of the place I call home
the other who was a violent sociopath
who attacked my mother
On the other hand, those that make me happy can't be with me all the time
I'm virtually friendless (with a few exceptions) in Exeter
And I'm so scared that I'm gonna lose Hannah
because I'm weird . . . and that's not even a good thing anymore, it's no longer quirky, people just think that I'm odd
My life is exams, stress and constant mistrust in the concepts of friendship and the future
yet I have to keep putting on this pretence that everything is fine
that I'm not bothered by feeling hollow
that I don't need to talk to anyone
my facade is growing ever more weary, my ego dying on me
and paranoia grows ever stronger
I kinda wanna fucking die atm mate
And the things that make me cling on to happiness are in such small number

I'm really worried about him.. any advice as to what I can do to make him happy?

It's no surprise that you'll soon forget about me
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Re: Worried about my friend - advice needed - May 10th 2010, 09:36 PM

Id spend more time with him. If he opened up to you that honestly, he probably trusts you. Hes under impression his life is a pretence, like he said. That would include his school/friendships/girlfriends etc etc.

I think you might be able to provide him a friendship which he would feel is genuine. Thats a beginning.

"I don't care about politics"
Then politics doesn't care about you either. Truth. You've got to make your voice heard, if you want to be listened to. But that's too logical for some people, so let me go a step further. Not making your voice heard, leaves other people free to hijack it by speaking on your behalf, even if they don't actually give a shit about you. That's politics. So, make your voice heard. That's not a quote from anywhere. That's just me.

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Re: Worried about my friend - advice needed - May 10th 2010, 10:19 PM

just because he looks happy on the outside, around a whole bunch of people doesn't mean that he really is. i went with that for the longest time. the whole pretending to be happy...

i say, spend more time with him?
possibly let him know that you are there for him?

my best friend, was always there for me, and that's what helped me out of my depressed state. just to know that someone cares.
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