TeenHelp
Support Forums Today's Posts

Get Advice Connect with TeenHelp Resources
HelpLINK Facebook     Twitter     Tumblr     Instagram    Hotlines    Safety Zone    Alternatives


You are not registered or have not logged in

Hello guest! (Not a guest? Log in above!)

As a guest on TeenHelp you are only able to use some of our site's features. By registering an account you will be able to enjoy unlimited access to our site, and will be able to:

  • Connect with thousands of teenagers worldwide by actively taking part in our Support Forums and Chat Room.
  • Find others with similar interests in our Social Groups.
  • Express yourself through our Blogs, Picture Albums and User Profiles.
  • And much much more!

Signing up is free, anonymous and will only take a few moments, so click here to register now!


Depression and Suicide If you or a loved one is feeling depressed or suicidal, you are not alone. Talk with other users about your feelings here.

Closed Thread
 
Thread Tools Search this Thread
  (#1 (permalink)) Old
Member
Average Joe
***
 
StrigidaeofChrono's Avatar
 
Age: 26
Gender: Female
Location: Washington

Posts: 120
Blog Entries: 1
Join Date: March 30th 2010

Depression Rut, advice? - May 31st 2010, 04:32 AM

This thread has been labeled as triggering, particularly on the subject of peer pressure or bullying, by the original poster or by a Moderator. The contents of this thread might therefore not be suitable for certain sensitive users. Please take this into consideration before continuing to read.

So, I was in a relationship for four months with a lot of verbal degrading. Myself esteem is low. I am very angry a lot of the time. I am still subconsciously repeating things to myself about how much I suck essentially. I'm weeding out the degrading. Its a bit like playing whack a mole actually. Anyways, that is what the cause of the depression rut is.

I'm posting for advice on speeding up the process. I seem to have a hard time figuring out how to figure out what abusive tendency I am using agents myself until they come out in conversation against someone else. Like my mother, who really, really, does not deserve it. It causes me a huge a mount of pain to treat her like that.
   
  (#2 (permalink)) Old
Fading Light. Offline
Do you believe in ghosts?
TeenHelp Addict
************
 
Fading Light.'s Avatar
 
Gender: bird bird
Location: the empty house

Posts: 9,235
Blog Entries: 70
Join Date: September 20th 2009

Re: Depression Rut, advice? - June 1st 2010, 08:08 AM

I'm sorry to hear you've gone through that, but well done for trying to get out of this rut.

The best advice I can give is to talk to somebody about this. A counsellor, psychologist, etc, can be very helpful, because they offer and outsider's perspective, and can often be able to spot your behaviour patterns before you can. Not only that, they can also give you strategies for dealing with it yourself, and for getting yourself out of this 'rut' you feel like you're in.

Good luck.


if you know the hunter's coming
then you hide or keep on running
'cause she's slain the gods before.
   
  (#3 (permalink)) Old
theshyone Offline
Member
Welcome me, I'm new!
*
 
theshyone's Avatar
 
Name: Liz :)
Age: 26
Gender: Female

Posts: 10
Join Date: April 23rd 2010

Re: Depression Rut, advice? - June 11th 2010, 06:52 PM

I've been through something a lot like this, but with my dad. And what helps me with the constant negative talk in my head is the abcd method. A = activating event, so figure out the event that happened to make you feel like that. B = belief, this is how it makes you feel about yourself. C = consequence, so what is the bad thing about feeling like that. D = Dispute the belief, find ways to turn that belief around so you can feel better yourself. A big thing I do is talk to friends, they will tell you if its the truth or not and help you through your down periods. Hope this helps. Take care.
   
Closed Thread

Bookmarks

Tags
advice, depression, rut

Thread Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off




All material copyright 1998-2019, TeenHelp.
Terms | Legal | Privacy | Conduct | Complaints

Powered by vBulletin®.
Copyright ©2000-2019, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
Search engine optimization by vBSEO.
Theme developed in association with vBStyles.