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Can't be bothered - June 15th 2010, 01:48 AM

I am a lucky girl; I have it good. I live in a nice house, I get food and water, I am clean, and I am healthy.


But I'm going through a rough time. I lost my father to a brain tumor in 2000, and after that, my mother obsessed over men. She was with several of them between then and now, but recently she's been with a man named Tom.
Tom isn't horrible. He doesn't beat me. But he fights with me a lot and that upsets my mom. He also drinks a lot and my mother drinks with him, and then they get angry. They will fight with me or nag at me. It causes a lot of tension between my mother and I (we used to be SO close, and I miss that.) and we've lost that connection. Each time we fight, I become more and more depressed and it starts to push me into suicidal thoughts. This whole depression has been going on since 2003 but I haven't seen a therapist because my mom won't take me to one. The depression is making things that used to be fun or simple really hard to do, such as walking, talking, swimming, biking, eating, and spending time with friends. Starting in the middle of last year, I completely quit doing my homework because I'm bad in school and failing every quiz or failing each page of homework would depress me more and more, so my mother and I fight about that as well. I'm just not sure what to do and I feel like if I don't talk to someone, I'm going to do more to myself than intended.


I want the pain to end, not my life. If someone can offer me some advice, that'd be fantastic.
   
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Re: Can't be bothered - June 15th 2010, 09:42 AM

Hi I'm sorry to hear about all that's going on for you right now. It must be really hard to deal with but you can get through it all, you're strong

Maybe, if you haven't tried this already, you could sit down and talk to your mum about how you're feeling and tell her that you want to be close with her again because you feel that you've lost it (being close with her) and want to try and rebuild the bond between you both.

I don't know how old you are but maybe you could book an appointment with a school or college councellor person or go and see your doctor about it. Or if you have a close member of family or a close friend, you could talk to them about how you are feeling.

Getting yourself back into the routine of eating and doing exercise might help with that. Tell yourself that you are going to do it and encourage yourself to get out the house and do something. Getting away for a bit can help a lot sometimes, especially if you aren't socialising much or if you're just in your house all the time apart from going to school or working.
Ask your friends to go out somewhere or go shopping or just hang out with them. Or just go out and go for a walk or swimming or biking like you used to. Try and get yourself out and doing something because I find it helps quite a lot.

But try and make an appointment with your doctor if you can or someone who could help you if you can get there.

Feel free PM me anytime if you want to.
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Re: Can't be bothered - June 15th 2010, 09:28 PM

Thanks for the reply =) I'm almost 13, but I'm not confident enough to talk with my mom or close family because that makes me feel like I'm asking for help (which I would be) and that would make me feel weak. I have a lot of pride

I tried getting my friends to hang out, but they're all too busy with their own lives and friends. Anyway, thanks again =)
   
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Re: Can't be bothered - June 16th 2010, 12:30 PM

Yes you would be asking for help, but it doesn't mean you are weak! It takes sooo much to ask for help from someone.

I know a few people who wished they had asked for help when they really needed it. Eventually they brought up the courage to do it and they are really improving and feeling a lot better about everything, because even just having someone to talk to helps a lot.

If you don't want to talk to family or people close to you then your school nurse or councellor would be good to try. They are trained to deal with things and they are there for you, so take advantage of that and go see them Nobody else is going to know if you did that if that's what you're worrying about.

I know that needing someone to be there, and talking about how you are feeling makes you feel weak, and like you can't handle things on your own. But sometimes reaching out to someone can really benefit you. It certainly doesn't mean that you are weak.
Think about it

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Re: Can't be bothered - June 16th 2010, 06:22 PM

Again, thanks =)


I'd really like to see a therapist; not a school therapist, but an actual therapist. Most people at my school already know that I need help but aren't willing to help me get it because they fear what others will think. Since I'm not really comfortable going to an actual face-to-face counselor, I think I'll try to find out more on a local program where a University student comes online and talks with you on a scheduled time.
   
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Re: Can't be bothered - June 17th 2010, 06:21 PM

Goooood People are stubborn sometimes :/ But it's great you're gonna get yourself help!! Well done!

That sounds quite good! Let me know how it goes

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Re: Can't be bothered - June 18th 2010, 01:01 AM

For the first time, it went really well =) We came up with lots of coping strategies (sp?) and we're planning to meet up to see a movie
   
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Re: Can't be bothered - June 18th 2010, 11:24 AM

Woo that's awesome!! I'm glad it helped you!!

Well have fun! And take care <3
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