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my brother... - July 19th 2010, 02:59 PM

my brother is 25, im 19.. he lives at home still,. and is an alcoholic (even though my family pretends not to notice).. but i do and it really bothers me. so this morning he was being rude to my mom, and it really upset me so i said why do you have to be so rude? and then he said "f**k you anne". i just ignored it and left the house.. 10 mins later he texts me, saying "I hope you die. everyone in our family talks s**t about you and doesnt like you. you are just a nusance to us all. so why dont you just do us a favour and go kill yourself"
I used to be really depressed... and attempted suicide about 3 years ago.. ive been ok since, but this really upset me... makes me sad, and makes me wonder if its best if i just do end it..
   
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Re: my brother... - July 19th 2010, 03:21 PM

Hey there.

Im really sorry you're having to see your brother this way. I'm not going to say i fully understand how you feel because the truth is i don't. But my mum used to be an Alcoholic and my dad has had a few issues with alochol so i can kind of understand your situation.

Firstly, its really unfair that your brother has made you feel this way, especially when you have come so far since you attempted suicide to the point where you no longer have felt the need to try again. Because, that's amazing and you should be so damn proud of yourself for coming so far. I know you said that your parents kind of ignore the problem, but i really think if its affecting you to the point where its making you think about suicide again, then you need to sit down with your mum or dad, or both of them, and explain how bad its making you feel, especially when he say's hurtful things like 'Go and kill yourself'. I can understand how much that hurts. And its not far for you to take it.

As for you brother, there is nothing you can do, or not on your own, which can pull him out of this. You can let him know your there, but ony if you feel comfortable with this. Dont think its you who has got to help him, because its not, you have your own life to live, and somtimes we all have to be selfish and think of out selves first yeah. Thats alright to do so. If your mum and dad decide he needs help, then all three of you might be able to get him help together, but im guessing because of his age, chance are he will have to make that firsts tep himself.

So i know this isnt what you want to hear, but right now, i think, you need to let your parents know how its making you feel and how worried you are, but then leave it to them and look after your self.

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Re: my brother... - July 19th 2010, 08:28 PM

Annie,
Brothers are brothers. He was just saying that to upset you. It's totally not true. You are totally amazing and have a whole life ahead of you. You know it's not the best to end it all. Because you've come this far, you are so strong to have kept going! You want to show your brother you are stronger then him and nothing he says will bring you down. I know it may hurt inside, and that's okay, but you know what he said isn't true. And you know, people are not their real selves when they drink. So Annie, pick your head up, you can make it through this. Show everyone you are the totally amazing awesome person you are. I'm sure all the positive things people say to you are a lot more then the small negatives that aren't even true. I'm always here if you want to talk.
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Re: my brother... - July 20th 2010, 12:00 AM

Some people can be extremely hurtful and childish at times. =/ Chances are he knows how caring you are and about your past depression and he said that to you out of anger because it was the most hurtful thing he could think of. Sadly family members and close friends often know what hurts us most.

However, it was completely unacceptable of him to say that to you and most definitely not true at all. I mean, he's trying to tell you that you're a nuisance ...when he's the alcoholic and rude to everyone? He probably just feels bad about his own messed up life and he's trying make out that other people are as bad as him instead of helping himself. It sounds like he has some serious issues really.

Just try to keep in mind you're a much better person and stronger than him and what he says really isn't true at all. You sound like a really nice person. Don't let rude people get you down, family member or not. Believe in yourself.


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