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Exclamation My boyfriend is gone, i wanna be gone too x - August 5th 2010, 01:28 PM

My boyfriend Andy, passed away a few days ago, well i was on holiday so i found out a few days ago. I know people say life gets better, but he was all i had, and he left me a word document incase he didnt make it back. I have cried for the past 3 days and i just wanna die. people keep saying it will get better and i just need to be strong but it wont! Without him im nothing, and i wanna kill myself so i can be with him, and be happy. Everyone says he wouldnt want this but in the document he said he wants me to be happy, nad thats how i will be happy I have no one to speak to i need help Xxxx
   
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Re: My boyfriend is gone, i wanna be gone too x - August 5th 2010, 01:40 PM

Shannon,

You don't say what the circumstances of your boyfriend's death were, but it's clear to me that regardless of what happened to him, he wanted you to live. You are very lucky to have a boyfriend who cared about you so much that he left a last will to you (in fact, I have the same thing on my computer, should anything happen to me), and I think we both know that by telling you to "be happy" he did not mean you should kill yourself to be happy. Killing yourself is the opposite of what he would want for you, and killing yourself will not let you see your boyfriend again. What you need to do now is honor his memory and his love and keep on moving forward, one day at a time.
   
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Re: My boyfriend is gone, i wanna be gone too x - August 5th 2010, 01:41 PM

totally agree with what Dana said and I sent mine in PM like you asked me to in the other PM hang in there girly and know theres plenty of people here that know how you feel but can you tell you giving up is never the answer


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Re: My boyfriend is gone, i wanna be gone too x - August 5th 2010, 03:15 PM

I know its easy for you to say be strong, but try putting yourself in my position, and taking all these comments.. its harder than it seems.
   
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Re: My boyfriend is gone, i wanna be gone too x - August 5th 2010, 03:29 PM

I can't imagine how this must feel for you - I can see how you feel alone and upset. It has only been a few days, so take it easy - people expect you to be upset for a while with this, and it's perfectly acceptable. I know you say killing yourself will make you happy, but in all honesty, this will put people around you in the same position. Coping with the death of someone close is a horrible experience and I know it feels like the end of everything, but hanging on is the best you can do for now. It wont simply disappear completely simply because of how close you were, but the pain of losing someone does eventually ease off. No, it doesn't go away but the memory of it keeps that person in your mind. Like Dana said, you have to honour his memory and [depending on the circumstances] keep him alive in the people around you.

In this case, it might help to talk to a parent or close friend and ask them to help you out, it'll give you someone to talk to and I imagine a lot of people will be willing to give you a shoulder to cry on. I know you said you can't, but with this you do just have to stay strong - and you are not nothing. You will mean a lot to plenty of people, and you have to be really brave with this.

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Re: My boyfriend is gone, i wanna be gone too x - August 14th 2010, 03:45 PM

thanks for all your help i no longer want to commit suicide THankyou to everyone who helped x
   
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