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Question Should I try it again? - August 6th 2010, 10:13 PM

Ok, so I got a letter this morning from the adult family therapy team, asking me if I want to go on the waiting list for family therapy. I read through the leaflet and showed it to my mum and I'm really not sure whether to do it or not. The thing is, me and my mum have done family therapy before and it got nowhere, other than making things worse and being one-sided..with my mother.
Granted it didn't help that I couldn't talk freely sitting next to my mum, but still..the therapist sided with mum. Not how it should be. I noticed on the leaflet that the same therapist is doing it this time..she is the only family therapist on the team..the rest are clinical psychologists. as its her it makes me even more uneasy. I just don't know whether its worth bothering again and I don't see it working.
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Re: Should I try it again? - August 12th 2010, 08:25 PM

Well if it didnt hurt that bad its worth a shot. I dont know your family situation. If you feel things getting one sided try to tell someone, let them know how you feel. Dont be afraid to speak up, they just want to help. Be open about your feelings and maybe your mom will open up too.
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Re: Should I try it again? - August 12th 2010, 08:42 PM


I think it is a good idea but this time I would suggest that you go prepared. You said that you have trouble talking while your mom is in the room so why don't you sit down and write down a list of things you want to discuss with your mom in family therapy and then give it to the family therapist. Maybe if you are better prepared for it things will go a little smoother.

One suggestion I would make is that if you feel like the therapist is taking your moms side that you confront her about it. Yes, confronting a therapist can be hard but they are there to serve you and when it comes to family therapy they are supposed to be objective. If you do not feel as if the therapist is being objective you need to let her know. It could help her better her therapy technique and it could help her to help you.

Remember that therapists are people too so they are going to make some mistakes throughout the course of therapy. That is why they need there patients to be completely honest with them. If something doesn't feel right they need the patient to help them understand that so they can better accomodate the patient.

I hope this helped.


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