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Unhappy I CAN'T SAVE HIM! - September 12th 2010, 08:29 PM

My friend Jackson just told me that he's suicidal. His mom is telling to commit suicide, and she doesn't want to hear what he has to say. I want to tell him about TH, but if I do that's admitting to him that I'm also suicidal. He's going to do it. I can't save him. Omfg, what the heck do I do? He's going to kill himself and I'm just sitting here doing nothing. I promised him I'd always take care of him, I swore that I would always protect him! If he dies it's all my fucken fault. WHAT DO I DO? He's going to kill himself and it's going to be all my fault!


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Re: I CAN'T SAVE HIM! - September 12th 2010, 08:35 PM

Tell him about the site, I'm sure there's someone here that can help. If not, I'd suggest getting him to the hospital.. They'll keep him over night under suicide watch, a cop will look out for him and then if they think hes a harm to himself or others, he will be admitted and escorted to a psych-ward for a few days...

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Re: I CAN'T SAVE HIM! - September 13th 2010, 03:20 AM

Hey, telling him about the site ISN'T admitting to being Suicidal. Keep in mind, TeenHelp is here to help EVERY teen, mentally ill or not. Whether the problem is a bad break-up or a mental health issue, everyone deserves (and gets) help and support. If it comes up, tell him you're struggling with people at school or something?


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Re: I CAN'T SAVE HIM! - September 13th 2010, 03:25 AM

Hey there,

Firstly, it would not be your fault if something happened. We all right our own story; no one person can be at fault for the things we do. You are doing the best you can for your friend right now because you are being a good friend and trying to support him and in the end he will be thankful for that.

As for telling him about the site; I know that it would be hard to do and I can understand you struggle with it. I think you should asses your feelings on the issue. Maybe you could make a pros and cons list as to why you should and shouldn't tell him. If you decide not to tell him you would NOT be a bad friend.

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Re: I CAN'T SAVE HIM! - September 13th 2010, 08:21 AM

Hey there.

That's a hard situation to be in, but let me tell you one thing: if he kills himself, it's not your fault. You can't be held responsible for his actions. There's only so much anyone can do for another person. So please, if anything happens, don't blame yourself.

Is there anyone you can tell this to? A trusted adult friend, perhaps? This isn't something you should keep to yourself, or try to deal with alone.

Another thing you can do is try and convince him to seek help himself. Encourage him to talk to someone, or to do everything he can to make himself safe.

I understand your mixed feelings around telling him about TeenHelp. But being on here doesn't mean you're suicidal. TeenHelp is for anyone, and you could be here simply to enjoy the community atmosphere, or for the fun features (like Avatar and the Albums), or to ask for advice about anything else. If it would help, maybe you could tell him about it, but not mention that you're on it, or not tell him your username?

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Re: I CAN'T SAVE HIM! - September 13th 2010, 01:38 PM

You have to tell someone, anyone who you think will listen to you and if you think he's already attempted or is in medical danger you can call 911 (or local emergency number) even if he hasn't tried anything they can still check on him for you.


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Re: I CAN'T SAVE HIM! - September 15th 2010, 01:23 AM

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Hey, telling him about the site ISN'T admitting to being Suicidal. Keep in mind, TeenHelp is here to help EVERY teen, mentally ill or not. Whether the problem is a bad break-up or a mental health issue, everyone deserves (and gets) help and support. If it comes up, tell him you're struggling with people at school or something?
But if I tell him about TH he'll want to know who I am, and why I'm here. It's so hard for me to lie to anyone, but him of all people.


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Re: I CAN'T SAVE HIM! - September 15th 2010, 02:23 AM

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But if I tell him about TH he'll want to know who I am, and why I'm here. It's so hard for me to lie to anyone, but him of all people.
Well wouldn't you be lying to him by not letting him know about your problems anyways?

Thats besides the point, though. Point is, you don't even have to tell him you're on TeenHelp, but you could say you heard about it, for example, when searching Depression, or Panic Attack, or something on the internet?


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