And the point would be???

[ophelia1989]

So I'm stuck.
Stuck with the same mindset and feelings I've had for years, stuck with student loans, stuck with wanting to cease existing-- but also stuck with the knowledge I will never do anything about it.
I can't. When so much of my life is trying to please friends and family, I couldn't kill myself. But I do wish I could cast some sort of magic spell to cease existing.
Here's my theory-- there is NO point for my existence. Everything I've done so far in my life is meaningless in the big picture. And the things I have accomplished could have been done just as well if not better by someone else. Photography contest, babysitting clients, even within my own family... If I hadn't been born someone else would have, and the world would be exactly the same place. Even if I were to land my dream job as a advertising executive or a travel show host... does it really make a difference who does it as long as it gets done?
Everyday I think about ways that I could die. Just dissolve and to be no more. But if I did that then everyone would know FOR SURE that I'm a failure. And I can't let that happen. I can't even tell my parents that I want to see a therapist because then they'll know something’s wrong with me.
I wish I could just go to sleep forever. None of my friends or family have the slightest idea that anything’s wrong, I'm good at acting happy all the time.
So... what do you think? What is the point to living when you have nothing new or important to contribute, when everything you'll ever do in your whole life could be done by someone else?

[teen spirit]

I understand where you are coming from...been there and have moved from that mindset...with determination and perseverance.
Sounds to me like you have some determination in you...so my question to you is; what are you doing differently to set yourself apart from all the others??? Because we all have unique gifts...it's just a matter of uncovering them to set us apart so we are unique.
Life doesn't live us...we live life and it is up to us to make decisions and choices that will put us in the direction in which we wish to lead...
What is it that you are passionate about? Lead life with your passion...do you have a mission or vision? Those go hand in hand once you know what you are passionate about.
I know how easy it is to get stuck...believe me...I was there for 2 years but once I realized how I wanted to make a difference in this world...yes, little 'ol me! I am making a difference...once I discovered what I was passionate about...I haven't looked back. It gave me a reason and a purpose to live. Something I was missing and didn't know where or how to find it.
I know we have been led to believe that if we aren't feeling happy or content and to share that with someone...oh how weak we must be...its actually the exact opposite. Once I started to let people into my inner world...they began to open up too and then all of a sudden I was the one that they would come to in order to get advice....
Its important to talk to others and not go it alone...I went it alone for a long time and all it did was take me into a deep depression that I had to find the strength to trust and find the help in others to get me out...thank God because it was others who were the ones who helped me find my way out of my darkness in the light that I now live in!
I hope this helped...
Feel free to PM me! if you want...

[dystorsion]

Hi Ophelia,

I understand your sentiments. I don't mean to be depressing, but I used to toss and turn in my bed wondering why I was born and it would baffle me. That is the past, however, and things are so much brighter in my life.

The truth of the matter is, everyone has the right to live because everyone has a purpose in life. The key to your happiness is to understand that the purpose of life is to give back to the world in your OWN way. You should not bring yourself down by imposing feelings of inadequacy on yourself, which arise mainly as a result of comparisons between your contribution to that of other people who "could do it better" (I put this in quotations because I think this is the wrong mentality). Once you have the esteem to believe that you can contribute in your OWN way, you will feel much more confident in yourself. The correct mentality is that you want to be happy with yourself. Being self-content is doing what you want to do and doing it with passion. It doesn't matter if someone can do it better.

Think about it. The reason we have TeenHelp Support Forums is so that ANYONE can provide support and contribute to aiding others in times of need. Does it matter if someone can provide better support than others? No. Support is all about quantity, not quality. We need all the support we can get. This concept applies to many other things in life. So you say you want to be a travel show host and an advertising executive? The world needs all the travel show hosts and advertising executives it can get. Not only that, the world is so big, you're always going to find a niche that you'll be self-content in.

The bottomline is... we all tend to underestimate our abilities and our contributions. I assure you that the people you've affected love you in ways that you don't realize. Have you read the book The Five People You Meet in Heaven? If not, I encourage you to do so. It is such a great book that concerns the issue of affecting people in our lives in ways we don't realize. The key is to realize that your contributions are valued, and that the quality of those contributions (whether someone can contribute better) doesn't matter. As long as you are happy with what you do, and that you're doing something with your life, that alone should make you happy.

I want to be a medical professional. I'm not the brightest pre-medical student. I understand that some of my peers will cure cancer, and that I won't. However, being a doctor would make me happy because I'd be contributing in ways that makes me feel like I have a purpose in life. So what if someone is doing a better job than I am? Be content with yourself, that's key.

I hope that helped Ophelia. I wish you the best and I hope that you find peace and harmony.

Sincerely,
DC

[JesusFreak]

there is always somethnig new. fight that mindset. you can fight it. u can win. u will win.