Triggering (Suicide): Too much

[westitchthesewounds]

All thats going on...... it's all too much! My mom yelling at my dad for no reson, getting ignored by everyone and their brother, no body listening to how I feel, the lure of the knife (even though I've never cut myself in my life), the confusion of friends and boys(expecially boys).........it's all too much...... I stopped talking to a counselor, they don't help......

[Max_99]

I'm sorry

There's always boy drama when you're 13, I'll say first.

Maybe try talking to your dad and mom about how you feel? I know that can be tricky, but it might help. Finding a good counselor is a lot like dating; you have to find someone you click with. Maybe keep looking and it'll help even more.


You're at a challenging age (I am, too. I'm younger than you <.<) and it helps to talk to people. You could also try writing in a journal, but I wouldn't suggest reading your previous journal entries. Maybe you could write in a journal and if you have a fire place, burn the entry afterward (be careful doing so.)

Feel free to PM me and I'll try to help you out

[~CourageousSurvivor~]

Hey there,

I really don't want you to give into the urge to cut because it will lead you down a slippery slope. I would suggest you look at the list of alternatives and use them whenever you feel that urge slipping into your brain. Self harm will not make your problems go away they will make things a lot worse. Here is the link to the alternatives:

http://www.teenhelp.org/forums/f12-self-harm/t9418-alternatives-self-harm/

I suggest you start talking to the counselor again; they can help you. Why didn't you feel like there were helping? I know that in the past counseling didn't seem to work for me and there were two reasons for this 1) I didn't not have the proper counselor. The counselor I had was good but didn't fit with me 2) I was not disclosing enough information. We have to remember that counselors are people too and therefore need us to be as open and honest with them as possible so that they can help us. The more information we give them the better able they will be to help us. Instead of cutting of communication with the counselor why not try and communicate to him or her how you are feeling. Let them help make counseling a helpful experience.

Lastly, I suggest you talk to your parents and explain how you are feeling. If you think face to face communication will get you no where write them a letter. Express everything you are feeling but try to stray from placing blame. If you blame them they might not take to kindly to what you are saying instead express your feelings using I statements. Focus on your feelings and less on your parents actions. I feel sad or unheard when you guys are fighting with one another. I feel hurt when you guys argue. Focusing on your feelings more so then the other persons (your parents0 behavior. If could help. I have been told that I statements are a lot better way to communicate because there is less chance of fighting. So, maybe that will help you. If your parents don't respond in a positive way try reaching out to some friends, other family members and other trusted adults.

You can get through this. If you need anything feel free to pm me.

Jenna