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Doing it for attention? - March 27th 2011, 05:27 AM

My younger half sister is 16 and she's been cutting/causing self harm for awhile. I've always struggled with how to handle the situation because I know that she does it to get her mom's attention. I worry about her a lot and I know she looks up to me, but I don't know how to get her to stop. Do I ignore it or acknowledge it if it's just for attention? If she gets what she wants, won't she continue to do it?

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Re: Doing it for attention? - March 27th 2011, 10:20 AM

Well, if she feels like she has to self harm to get attention, there's obviously something wrong. Something she needs the attention for. Self harm is desperate, and she's desperate for someone to help her, so in my opinion (as someone who is a self harmer) you definitely should acknowledge it and help her.


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Re: Doing it for attention? - March 27th 2011, 12:09 PM

Are you 100% sure that it's just for attention? Self harm is serious and it can be extremly hard to stop. I know from experience. You should try and talk to her. Ask her why she feels the need to self harm? Ask her if she would like help to stop? and assure her that you are there for her. So when she feels like it to come and talk to you instead. Simply ignoring it will make the problem worse as if she is doing it for attention its a cry for help.


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Re: Doing it for attention? - March 27th 2011, 03:10 PM

I used to self-harm in the past, and think that it is serious, whether it's for attention or not. Even if it is for attention, there's the question of why she wants attention in the first place, and the fact that if she feels the need to hurt herself in order to do it, she must feel quite unhappy in herself. Talking to her about it and acknowledging the problem seems like a good idea, although she might not appreciate it. I know when people tried to talk to me about it at first I didn't want to talk about it at all. Now, I wish I had.
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