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Question Crying on the inside, faking on the out. - June 15th 2011, 12:25 PM

Is it normal not to be able to cry at all? Like I feel so sad most times and when I really want to let it out and cry nothing happens. I still get the feelings like my throat is tight and my chest feels like it's going to cave in but
I like physically can't cry... No tears... It really is breaking me because when I can't cry I think That is when I cut. I wanted to know if this is normal or not and what I should do.
   
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Re: Crying on the inside, faking on the out. - June 15th 2011, 01:16 PM

This is fairly normal I think. It has happened to me in the past 1 trillion times.
There is nothing you can really do to make yourself cry when you want it well I least I have never found a way.

But self harm isn't a good substitute to crying as I am sure you know, Look at the alternative trhead in the self harm forum there are loads of distraction techniques there.

As for the what you should do about the inability to cry is a tricky one, my advice is to keep talking/ communitcating how you feel on here even if it is a rant as the support on here will help you through.
Also a good idea would be going to see your doctor it is a daunting preospect, but your doctor won't judge they have seen many people feeling the way you do and self harming. Your doctor will be able to refer you to specialists and even though it is a scary thing afterwards you will feel relieved I can assure you that. Take someone for support if you want they can wait for you in the waiting room during the appointment, having someone with you in the waiting room can help carm your nerves.

Anyway I am rambling here, just remember self harm will not help in the loing run, and talking even if it is just on here can help you deal and understand your emotions. Don't stress or worry about not being able to cry. I am here if you ever need to talk or rant whatever.

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Re: Crying on the inside, faking on the out. - June 15th 2011, 01:48 PM

Ok. I appreciate your help. I haven't been to a doctor in a very long time... No time for me to go see anyone when everyone else in my life only lives for themselves.
   
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Re: Crying on the inside, faking on the out. - June 15th 2011, 05:09 PM

I get that seeing a doctor is difficult, are you old enough to bbok your own appointment.
And I don't mean to sound so pressuring, if you are not ready then you are not ready and until you are and infact when you are ready I and all other teenhelpers are here for you.


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Re: Crying on the inside, faking on the out. - June 15th 2011, 05:18 PM

Hey Shana.

I would say that it's totally normal. When I was struggling with my sexuality this last year, there were times when I wanted to just sit someplace and cry. Somehow though, I just felt uncomfortable. While I wanted to let feelings out, I was afraid of people either not understanding, or judging me if I told them what was wrong. Do you feel the same way? Do you feel safe about crying in the place that you are?


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Re: Crying on the inside, faking on the out. - June 15th 2011, 10:16 PM

i say its normal i haven't cried in weeks where before i used to cry everyday ://
but yano maybe your scared to let it all out like me ..
i dont know ..
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Re: Crying on the inside, faking on the out. - June 16th 2011, 01:48 AM

I agree to a point that I am not ready to tell anyone my secrets. I do talk to two of my friends but to an extent. I am hoping that I can get stronger and talk. I REALLY want to let it out. I am not sure how I feel. I guess I just can't let my emotions out. I guess I think that if I cry I won't be able to stop or something because I just can't cry. My friend keeps telling me to see a counselor. She see's one and apparently talks about me to him and Idk it's stupid that I am so scared I guess, because I know they WILL help me.
   
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Re: Crying on the inside, faking on the out. - June 16th 2011, 01:12 PM

I think its a good idea to see a counsellor. You don't have to tell them everything strait away, but could work on things slowly. It might be a little weird at first but like you said it might help you. Also I find that writing down how I feel is helpful. If you don't know how you feel emotionally, then try writing down what happens in your day. Just the sequential events, and thinking about them individually. good luck
   
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Re: Crying on the inside, faking on the out. - June 16th 2011, 11:40 PM

Thanks I actually do write. An teacher that I use to talk to before summer began advised me to do so. She always made me feel better just to talk to her. She didn't know how bad I was feeling but she could tell I was sad. She was so nice and I really miss talking with her.
   
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