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How? - June 28th 2011, 01:14 AM

How can I ask for help?
I just can't take the step I need to take.
I struggle through every day, and I'm barely able to take this anymore..
About five years ago my teacher tried to get me to talk with some people bacause she saw that I wasn't okay. I just found a letter she had written to my parents about it, and it said that they(the school) would do something about it, and they had planned for me to go to the school nurse on a regular basis and that they wouldn't let me "get out of it". I remember one time that this teacher asked to talk with me, she brought me to her office where the school nurse was and then she left. I stayed for about a minute, the nurse said that she wanted to arrange meetings but I never heard anything more about it. So much for not letting me get out of it..
At that time I was so scared because they were talking to my parents, and I felt like I couldn't say anything because then my parents would know.
Now I'm at a new school, I've become an exellent actor(like my friend who told me "I'm just so happy to finally have a friend who's not struggeling"), and I can't let anyone see that I'm hurting every day. Nobody has ever seen the scars on my arms and legs, all they see is that I'm a bit shy..
I might not be able to live with this much longer, and I don't think I ever can be brave enough to admit to anybody that I'm not okay, so I just feel so stuck at where I am now..
Can anybody tell me what to do?
   
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Re: How? - June 30th 2011, 06:33 PM

I understand that you want your friends to think that you aren't upset. I was like
that once. If you look at the whole picture though, don't you think your friends want
to help you?
If one of your best friends was really hurting, wouldn't you like to help them? Give
someone a chance to help you. I bet you'd be suprised.
And just because your friend said that she's happy you aren't stuggling, doesn't
necessarily mean that she wouldn't help you if you are. I don't think she meant that
the way that she said it. I think she just is happy that you are happy.
My personal opinion, the best way I think to bring up something personal like that is
to write a note. That way you can think about what you want to say, before you say
it. Also, because when they will most likely read the note all the way though. Bringing
it up face-to-face for the first time, wouldn't be very helpful. Because they will have
questions, and cut into what you are trying to say. If you write a note you can't be
interrupted. Not that they would mean to, just because it will probably be a shock.
That way you both have a chance to think before actually talking about it.
I hope this helped and I hope you feel better soon. You can always message me if
you would like to.
best of wishes, Kristen
   
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Re: How? - June 30th 2011, 07:11 PM

Hey Kari, I understand exactly how you're feeling!! I used to SH, still do sometimes, and my friends NEVER noticed. Sometimes I'd even try weird things like putting my arm in front of their faces, trying to look like I was doing it absent-mindedly. Never really worked. But after a while I decided to tell someone!! She wasn't even a really good friend, but she listened to me and understood. After that I felt that there was someone out there who cared about me. I agree with Kristen though, writing a note would definately be much easier. Just remember that it's always best to tell someone, and hey, they may be going through similar things!
I hope things get better for you, feel free to message me if you just wanna talk!
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Re: How? - June 30th 2011, 08:52 PM

I know that it can be really hard to tell someone, but it will make you feel so much better, and it can help you get over the addiction as well.

Arabella has a really good point, writing a note is a lot easier to do. I ended up telling my mom before almost anyone else though, the very first time I told someone I think it was my friend Kenzi and she never really knew how to deal with it.

It's all about who you're comfortable telling. And remember that you can always talk to people here too.

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