My friend is very depressed

[dancergeek]

Basically this guy I know has been struggling with depression and self-esteem issues all his life. Recently, like in the last year and a half, he decided to take control of his life, but he keeps finding himself feeling like he's getting nowhere. The main reason why he's depressed is because he feels his life is pointless-- he is homeschooled and his parents never had him involved in any out of home activities so he developed the unhealthy lifestyle of just sitting in his room on his laptop all day at a young age. He has made some progress in his social life, but he mostly just stays home all the time. He really wants a change because he has seen how his older brothers' lives have turned out and doesn't want that to happen to him. He isn't very close to his parents so he doesn't feel comfortable talking to them about stuff like this. Any suggestions for what he should do? I was thinking suggesting he get involved in volunteering, but I don't know where to direct him... any and all help would be much appreciated.

[Katrina]

Hi there!

First of all, I regret that this post hasn't yet gotten any replies. I always hate to see a post with no replies in D&S. How is the situation coming along? Any breakthroughs? Secondly, welcome to TeenHelp. I certainly hope you find what you're looking for. I'm a dancer as well, and its always lovely to see other dancers here! (:

I think you've got the right idea in thinking that it might be good for him to get involved with something outside of the house, for sure. Its so important for developing adolescents to have interaction with their peers AND their family (not just one, or the other). I think in order for this to be as effective as possible, though, it should be a volunteer position about something he's passionate about. So, for example, if he's a fan of animals, you may look into the Humane Society. If he's good with kids, perhaps check with local YMCAs. Wherever you are, I'm SURE there's a need for volunteers. (After all, there's ALWAYS a need for volunteers).

Good luck!

[alibear101]

Hey! I definitely agree with Katrina... For a while when I was depressed i didn't do anything at all. I think the one thing that kind of got me through it all was joining things that interested me. Like right now I am involved in a magazine called the undercroft. If he enjoys writing then maybe he can look for something like that? Volunteering is definitely a good thing to do! basically anything that helps me look on the bright side and gets him out of the house. Even if you are hanging around with him or call him on the phone. Itsgreat when you have a friend as caring as yourself who will help you through both the good times and the bad times <3

[It's Killing Me]

I agree. You should encourage him to volunteer for something he likes or is passionate about. And introduce him to some of your friends too. Give him a call sometimes. Ask him to hang out with you and your friends. Just try to get him involved in any way with others of his own age. Also, ask him for help on your studies. Or anything like that.

You are an amazing friend.