Advice?

[curlyfries]

About four years ago my parents divorced. My mom and I havent had a good relationship since. We don't talk much, I talk to her about 5min a week. We stopped talking for a year and then we started again. Ever since my parents got divorced I haven't been as happy as I used to be. Two year after my parents got divorced my dad got married. They would fight all the time but it was the worst on the weekends when they would drink. They would scream and break things and you could hear it anywhere in the house so there was no escaping the fighting. I wouldn't want to come home from school because I was scared there would be another fight. That is when I first started to think that maybe if I killed myself they would stop fighting, maybe they would realize that by fighting they were just making things worse. I never told anyone I was thinking this way because I never actually hurt myself because I could never think of a quick easy way to kill myself. My dad and his wife seperated after the biggest fight they had. and when that happened I stopped thinking about killing myself. I was happy for a couple of months. Then they started to see each other again. And when they started to see each other again the thoughts started to come back. This time I told my sister and my friend that I was having these thoughts, then the next day I told my Dad because I thought I was done thinking this way, and I don't want to think like this anymore. Does anyone have any advice to how maybe I can stop thinking this way?

[escape_thereal_world]

What was your dad's reaction?

Also, why not try to make mends with your mom? Then maybe you can switch between the households. You didn't mention why you don't get along with her, that's why I suggest it. It might help to have both parents around.

Also, talking with a counselor (school or someone from a counseling firm), could definitely help. I know lots of people are not keen on seeing a counselor, but you could just say you want short-term counseling and work on figuring out why you feel this way and what you can do about it.

[curlyfries]

my dad was calm and talked to me and told me a couple of options that i could do. And my mom and I dont get along because she left us and she doesn't make an effort to talk to me or see me.

[escape_thereal_world]

Alright, well at least your Dad is trying to be helpful
Maybe try the options he gave? I still suggest a counselor, as it might help even if you see them once or twice, just to get some more options and ideas.

[curlyfries]

Okay Thank You

[Kate*]

My parents divorced when I was 8 and my dad has been married twice since then. I'm glad you told your dad how you felt; I would also suggest talking to a professional of some kind about this. I know that you want the fighting to stop, but ending your life is not the way to make that happen, their fighting has nothing to do with you, they're doing it because they can't get along with each other. Go through with your dad whatever options he came up with and decide what's best for you. Feel free to PM me, I've been a child of divorce for about 15 years now.