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I didn't sign up for this. - January 1st 2012, 07:03 PM

I'm 15. As far as I can tell I should not be taking care of a family. But unfortunately, that's exactly what i feel like I'm doing.

A little while ago my dad left and recently him an my mom have been trying to work things out. But she's spend money she doesn't have trying to make him happy. So she is always taking my money. I work really hard for my money because I babysit and that doesn't pay very well. I know I sound selfish, but it doesn't seem fair when I need the money.

On top of that, I feel like I am becoming a mom to my brother and sister: a mom that they won't even listen to. And she always get irritated over small things and is very short-tempered. I FREAKING HATE THIS. All I wanna do is go back to throwing up everything I eat and cutting myself. at least I was "happier".

First day of the new year and I'm already crying. Great.


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Re: I didn't sign up for this. - January 2nd 2012, 07:58 AM

Hey,

Regarding to your title, unfortunately none of signed up for what we got; however, we can always try and make the best of it while attempting to fix the situation. Let's take a look at your situation. First off, it's incredibly wrong of your mother to be taking your money. You don't sound selfish at all. I think that you should first talk to her about this and tell her that you don't appreciate the fact that she is taking your money. If she refuses to listen to, then hide your money somewhere that she doesn't look. Second, you shouldn't have to be a mother to your siblings. If you feel that your mother is being neglectful and leaving all of the care to you, then you have a few options. Do you have an trusted adult friends and/or neighbors who could help you with care? What about relatives? If all of those suggestions don't work, then you can always call Child Protective Services. I know that would be a huge step to take, but if your mother is constantly neglecting you, then it may be the correct step to take.
You need to make time for yourself every day. Even if it's only 15-30 minutes, that time is still important. Use that time to relax, get some exercise, whatever makes you feel calmer. Hang in there Sarah! There's a bright future ahead of you.

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Re: I didn't sign up for this. - January 2nd 2012, 03:36 PM

I was in a similar boat when I was 15 too. Although my mum wasn't taking my money (which I believe is very wrong of her to do so!) I was running the house, doing the household chores, making sure everyone was fed and to school on time, etc

I know it feels as though you are completely alone. That this is getting to become too much. That you can't stay strong much longer.

In all honesty, you don't have to. You only have to stay strong enough to keep yourself healthy. If you're in good shape, you will be able to deal with this easier. It will get better. There will come a day, sometime soon, where everything will come to a head. It may get mean and nasty, with yelling and tears, or it may be a calm rationale and agreement, but you and your mum will have to get your roles back in order. The stress of running a family at your age is too much.

For now, I recommend hiding your money and/or not disclosing the true amount to your mum, and stay strong in yourself to stay healthy. This is not your job. It will pass, I promise you.

PM me if you want to talk at all ok? x


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Re: I didn't sign up for this. - January 5th 2012, 09:59 PM

I agree with the above posters. You might also enjoy reading the book "Define Normal" by Julie Anne Peters; it's a quick and easy read but the main character deals with a lot of similar situations to what you mentioned here.


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