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Why keep going? - January 12th 2012, 07:14 AM

I lost my girlfriend to suicide recently and now i feel like the only way out is death. I had been with her for 3 years and i loved her. people keep saying that life goes on but it feels like my life is already over. So why should i keep going? It would be so much easier to just end it all.
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Re: Why keep going? - January 12th 2012, 07:34 AM

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I lost my girlfriend to suicide recently and now i feel like the only way out is death. I had been with her for 3 years and i loved her. people keep saying that life goes on but it feels like my life is already over. So why should i keep going? It would be so much easier to just end it all.
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Re: Why keep going? - January 12th 2012, 04:06 PM

Hi there.

I'm sorry that this has happened. I can't begin to imagine how hard it must be to lose someone so close to you and it's understandable that this is getting you down. It's incredibly hard when you go through losing a loved one and I think it must be even harder knowing that they ended it because they were feeling so low and bad about themselves and their life.

You're going to need time to grieve. Grieving is horrible, it's going to cause you a hell of a lot of pain to come to terms with the fact that your girlfriend has killed herself. But you can get through this and you will start to see the point in life again but until then you have to hang on.

You need to try and face this, which admittedly will be hard, but you need to overcome it and find ways to deal with what has happened. Don't be afraid to talk to people or let your emotions show. People will understand why you're feeling sad and low, I'm sure they'll want to support you. Don't be alone in this. I don't know if you're religious but if you are maybe you can turn to your faith for some comfort. Do what ever it takes to help you get through this and like I said, don't be alone.

Just make sure you look after yourself too. As hard as it is, facing the feelings might help in the long run. Try to find a way to express how you're feeling, whether, again that is talking to someone, using art, writing lyrics, creating a piece of music, doing video blogs, anything. Don't feel like you have to keep all this inside of you. Most importantly, take care of you, do things to treat yourself,take a bath, go for a long walk, do things you enjoy.

You will begin to accept what has happened over time. It's going to be hard but you can get through this. You ending your life is not the answer.

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Re: Why keep going? - January 12th 2012, 05:49 PM

Hey there,

I am so sorry that this has happened. Losing someone for any reason is incredibly painful but when they take their own life it can leave you with a lot of feelings of guilt and regret on top of the grief. Ending your own life, however, is not the answer. Give yourself time to grieve. Right now, you are allowed to feel sad.

Try not to isolate yourself. Keep friends and family around you who know what has happened. And please, please talk to someone if you feel suicidal. There are people out there who can help you. Call a friend, talk to a family member, call a hotline, use Live Help. Anything where you are interacting with another human being.

Try to look after yourself. Jessie gave some great suggestions for you, they are all really good things to do. If you are finding that you can't look after yourself, then let someone know. Try to let people help you, because right now people will want to help you.

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Re: Why keep going? - January 12th 2012, 09:04 PM

Hey, I can't imagine losing someone that close but I have lost a friend to suicide. Its not an easy thing to go through, But you can get through it. Spend time with your friends and family, try to have fun. It gets easier, Stay strong.
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Re: Why keep going? - January 12th 2012, 09:44 PM

I'm sorry you lost your girlfriend to suicide. If I ever lost my girlfriend, especially in a way like that, I'd be pretty distraught too. You should, although keep going. You know, she was probably in a really bad place herself. And I know you probably blame yourself, even though it isn't your fault, whether you believe it or not. If she had her mind made up, it was going to happen whether you wanted it to or not. She'd want you to move on and be happy. she's in a better and painfree place now. and I know how good painfree sounds, but please keep going. You've got a lot to live for. And now, I think you should live for her, because I think that's what she would want. <3 Hang in there, hun. And message me if you need to talk. I'm here for you.
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