My Mom Lies About our Future Cat

[Mistymoon]

Okay. So first let me start out with the fact that I have begged for a Traditional or Classic Siamese kitten for just about my entire life.

So just this year we decided to get one. I did so much research (brought home eight thick books home from the library whenever I could) my mom said that I could own a cattery of my own with the family. We searched through catteries, and I did all the work. I finally found some I liked and narrowed it down more. I found one that was in our state, and my mom and sister liked it too, so we contacted the cattery owner thinking everything was okay.

Let me also say that I was the only one who worried when two of the kittens of the most recent litter had gotten reserved.

So the lady at the cattery talked to my mom, and my mom talked to me on the phone about THEIR conversation. I had a smile from that point up until just today, when my mom told me we were going to spay the kitten.

Now I feel defeated and upset because she never told me that there was a possibility this dream wouldn't happen. She could have told me it might not work out from the beginning and save my feelings, right? I don't know what to think. I just feel like there was some reason she wanted me upset. I'm so upset with her I don't even know if I want a kitten anymore. Please help.

[Breeze715]

Have you owned any cats before this? Your mom might just be worried that you are not ready to be the working parent of a bunch of cats! I own two cats, both female and fixed, and they are very hard to deal with!
Even if this isn't the case, I'm sure your mom isn't trying to make you unhappy. Along with getting the kitten fixed, Male cats will surround your house and mark it when it is going through heat. Your mom could have not known this fact before she talked to the cattery lady.
You should totally get the kitten. Even if you cannot have your own cattery right now, what better way to prepare then owning an adorable little cat?

[California]

I wouldn't be to upset your finally getting the kind of cat you have wanted your whole life! Like Breeze said I had a rescue cat and before she got spayed every night I would have 1-3 male cats out front of my house every night making noise non stop.

I can see where your mom is coming from, a cat could have up to 8 kittens in a litter, taking care of new borns is a lot of work and require supervision to make sure they survive, your mom and your family might not have the time and the resources to do such a difficult task.

Just enjoy and love your new cat!

[Mistymoon]

Yes, I've owned cats before, and I know a lot of others who own them. No, my mom doesn't know much about cats, but she has owned multiple Siamese. She said a while ago that there was a chance I could prove myself to the cattery lady, but I know there isn't, and it isn't even reassuring because it's so far-fetched in this situation. I have super-mixed feelings about everything right now, because my mom was moving closer to my dad's house, but now she's saying she might have to stay in this stupid new house in Connecticut (my dad's house is in NY, and it's much too far away). She's really upsetting me. And I am thinking about not even talking about a cattery again because it's so obviously out of the question for this lifestyle. I know it isn't right, but what else is there to do? I think my anger from both problems is going to overflow at some point.