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I feel so stupid. - July 25th 2012, 05:56 PM

I don't know what is wrong with me. I scratch myself when I feel really overwhelmed by everything. I think about my future and how I am going to fail in life and everything and then I start crying and get really upset. The only way I am able to calm myself down is by scratching myself.
In the last month or so I have done it more often. I only do it when I am so upset that I can't do what I should be doing at the time. I have recently started using a tac in addition to my nails to scratch myself just infer by hips where a bikini will hide them. What I do is no where near as severe as other forms of self harm, I know. I don't draw blood and the marks heal after a while. I started scratching myself about a year ago with my nails and only then did it sporadically.
I don't know if I should tell someone or how I would go about doing it. I don't think I trust anyone enough to tell them. I'm afraid my dad wouldn't understand it and my mom would blame herself. My little sister would tell my mom. I don't know if I could tell my brother or my friends.
I've never told anyone before; sorry this post is so freakin' long.
I don't know what to do.
   
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Re: I feel so stupid. - July 25th 2012, 08:41 PM

Hey there,

I am so sorry that you're struggling right now, and that you feel like you don't have anyone to trust, but your mom and your sister obviously care about you and want to help. I really think you should try talking to your mom about what's going on, instead of letting your sister tell her, that way your mom can trust you and get you the help you need and deserve, parents love their kids, and they want to help you, you can trust her. Sit down with her when she's in a calm mood and there's no distractions and just tell her. If you're nervous, you could also write her a letter instead, I know a lot of people do that instead because it's a lot less nerve racking.

Self harm is just a negative way of coping, no matter how bad it is, it still affects you negatively, and you do need help to get through it, and you deserve it. You can also use alternatives to self harm, instead of hurting yourself, talk to someone you trust about it or just about random things to get your mind off of it. Here's a list of alternatives that might help: http://www.teenhelp.org/forums/f12-s...ves-self-harm/ Just go through the list and try out a few, but don't get discouraged if they don't all work, because different alternatives help different people, so just keep trying.

Don't be sorry for asking for help, we're here to help in any way that we can. You're not alone, talk to your mom or a friend if you want. You can get through this. Just stay strong and keep your chin up! If you ever need anyone to talk to, feel free to message me. Good luck!


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Re: I feel so stupid. - July 25th 2012, 11:29 PM

I understand the emotions you're going through having been through them myself, not that I understand everything you're through. It's unique to each person.

You'll have to forgive me, I'm not the sympathtic type. I'm the type that says alright you feel like this but you can and will feel better.

Bear in mind, I'm no degree certified professional, but I've dealth with young people as a peer mentor and the best thing you can do is speak to a councillor. They won't tell your parents or family as they have to abide confidentiality rules.

I've encountered scratching before and the person who did it got themselves a stress ball and took up art, pretending that they were scratching their skin when in actual fact they were painting an abstract.

Just remember no matter how hard it gets, nomatter how weak you feel you become, there is always somebody there with a parachute and a safety net.

If you ever need a chat, pm me

Hope I've been of help
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