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Self Harm If you or someone you know is struggling with self harm and needs advice or alternatives, we're here to help.

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Exclamation Please Help me!!! - August 23rd 2012, 02:17 PM

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Well I did use to self harm a lot. I got a pipe cleaner and scratched into my arm. It didnt bleed though, no matter how hard I tried, but it left really viable scratches where it dented into my skin and now there are dark patches where I did it. I stopped as when my mum found out she was upset and I felt like I hurt her and other around me. But now I'm tempted to do it, as I just feel so stressed. So now I will keep on punching something for no reason and if I start crying at anytime I slap myself telling myself I'm wing stupid. As sometimes when I'm alone I just cry for no aprent reason. And I bite myself trying not to cry. It could go on from 5 minuets to over an hour. And I feel like I'm going insane. And my mum, and my friend and my cancilor think I'm fine. And I can't bear hurting my mum again. But is it even self harm??? I'm just so confused help me!
   
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Re: Please Help me!!! - August 23rd 2012, 03:25 PM

I'm really sorry you're going through such a hard time.
Anything you do as a coping mechanism that causes physical harm is SH. Whenever you feel those urges and get really tempted to do it, make sure you check out the alternatives thread here. There are a bunch of different methods, so if one doesn't work for you just try another.
When you're alone and you feel like crying, why do you stop yourself? Sometimes I feel like I just need to cry myself out and eventually it'll stop and you feel better. Maybe that's just me.
I know you say that you don't want to hurt your mom again, but I'm sure you feeling this bad and not getting help would hurt her even more. She obviously cares about you. I think she would rather you go to her and say "hey I need help" than be suffering on your own for a long time. I think when you're feeling calm, you should explain to them what you're feeling and that you're not fine. I think it's pretty obvious that you're not fine and you're not okay. You don't deserve to feel this way.
Is there anyone else you can talk to? A friend or a trusted adult? I'm really sorry you're dealing with this right now. I know how hard it is. If you ever need to chat, feel free to PM me.
Hang in there!
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Re: Please Help me!!! - August 23rd 2012, 07:34 PM

A lot of things happened to bring me to self harming. But when I'm crying I feel it's stupid, like I have no reason as people are actually more worse off than me and I don't deserve to cry so I try and stop myself. Afterwards I just feel nothing for a bit, then can pull myself together like nothing had happened. I have tried to tell someone but I can't see my mum upset and to be honest I don't really feel it worth telling. It may just slowly stop. And I can't let people know, as when my mum was in hospital we had social services on our back and if people knew they might take me and my sister away. Which would hurt everyone and just makes things worse. So right now I feel I just have to cope with it myself. Or I will hurt everyone around me...


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Re: Please Help me!!! - August 24th 2012, 03:17 PM

It's not stupid to cry. Like Hannah said, a lot of times it can help you feel better. Yeah, there are people worse off, but that doesn't mean what you feel doesn't' matter. Since your mom already knows you've self-harmed, maybe you could try telling her that you're getting urges to do it again and you want her to help you through this. But it sounds like your mom cares about you, and I'm sure she would rather you ask for help then find out you've been struggling alone. Definitely check out the list of alternatives that Hannah gave you. Not everything will work for everyone, but once you find several that DO work, I think it will help you a lot.


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