TeenHelp
Support Forums Today's Posts

Get Advice Connect with TeenHelp Resources
HelpLINK Facebook     Twitter     Tumblr     Instagram    Hotlines    Safety Zone    Alternatives


You are not registered or have not logged in

Hello guest! (Not a guest? Log in above!)

As a guest on TeenHelp you are only able to use some of our site's features. By registering an account you will be able to enjoy unlimited access to our site, and will be able to:

  • Connect with thousands of teenagers worldwide by actively taking part in our Support Forums and Chat Room.
  • Find others with similar interests in our Social Groups.
  • Express yourself through our Blogs, Picture Albums and User Profiles.
  • And much much more!

Signing up is free, anonymous and will only take a few moments, so click here to register now!


Self Harm If you or someone you know is struggling with self harm and needs advice or alternatives, we're here to help.

Closed Thread
 
Thread Tools Search this Thread
  (#1 (permalink)) Old
swimergirl Offline
Member
Welcome me, I'm new!
*
 
swimergirl's Avatar
 
Age: 27
Gender: Female

Posts: 24
Join Date: November 22nd 2009

This could be bad.... - August 28th 2012, 06:22 AM

This thread has been labeled as triggering, particularly on the subject of self harm, by the original poster or by a Moderator. The contents of this thread might therefore not be suitable for certain sensitive users. Please take this into consideration before continuing to read.

For the longest time I struggled with cutting. I still do I mean it is a constant battle not to cut. But I cut today. I cut several times and now I can seem to understand why I stopped. It felt so good to cut again. Like I could forget all my problems again. Why did I stop in the first place? Do I really want to stop now?
   
  (#2 (permalink)) Old
Everglow. Offline
Did you miss me?
Outside, huh?
**********
 
Everglow.'s Avatar
 
Name: Hollie
Age: 24
Gender: Female
Location: London

Posts: 4,791
Blog Entries: 721
Join Date: January 19th 2011

Re: This could be bad.... - August 28th 2012, 05:30 PM

Hi there,

First of all, well done for stopping for the time you did! It's incredible that you managed to do that, for any amount of time, and you should be proud of that regardless of how you feel and what you're going through now.

Cutting is a hard thing to stop, as I'm sure you know, but the reason to stop is that, which you may think it helps, it doesn't. It's not a good thing to use to help you deal with your emotions because it simply doesn't. Perhaps it takes your mind off of any emotional pain you have, or perhaps the physical pain is more easy to deal with. Perhaps it's the 'release' you get from cutting that makes you think it helps. Regardless of what it is, if you think about it, it doesn't really help anything. Sure, for the moment you're hurting yourself, it may well do what you've wanted it to, and it may well make you forget what else is going on, but afterwards, you're not only left with the feelings you had that led you to hurt yourself in the first palce, but you're left with the pain, not only of that, but the cuts you've made on yourself too. Then comes the disappointment in yourself which many people get afterwards. And, of course, SH gets worse over time. It may start off with a few scratches, but it's addictive, and with any addiction, soon the small things seem not to be enough. It becomes dangerous. You're left with scars, the cuts get worse. When you think about it, SH doesn;t solve your problems, it leaves you with more to deal with; more pain to suffer. Why should you stop? Because you don't need any more suffering when you clearly have enough going on already.

At some point, you decided that SH wasn't for you any more. That decision had reasons, and while you may not be sure of them now, they were once important. There's another great reason to move away from SH again. At one point it was a good idea. You've relapsed, and these things happen in recovery. It doesn't make you weaker or anything, it just gives you another chance to try again. It takes time to recover, but you can still do it. I'd recommend you take look here at some of the alternatives here on TH. Not cutting is a constant battle, you're right, but having nothing to take your mind off of the urges will only make it worse. Take a look through the list and find ones that help. Not all of them will, but if you keep trying, something is bound to help, so don't be put off by the ones that aren't useful!

I hope this has helped a bit. You don't need SH to survive what you're going through. It's not a good way of coping, and I hope you manage to see that and keep on fighting the urges. IT'll be hard, but I have faith in you and totally believe you can do it. Never give up just because it's tough and you've fallen back into old habits, they just give you somewhere new to start from and a new place to end up. You can do this.

Take care,
Hollie.


❤ Nana ❤
1953-2016

As far as we can discern,
the sole purpose of human existence
is to kindle a light in the darkness of mere being.
- Carl Jung

   
2 user(s) liked this post or found it helpful.
  (#3 (permalink)) Old
swimergirl Offline
Member
Welcome me, I'm new!
*
 
swimergirl's Avatar
 
Age: 27
Gender: Female

Posts: 24
Join Date: November 22nd 2009

Re: This could be bad.... - August 29th 2012, 03:37 AM

Thank you for your inspiring words I'm reall ganna try and not relapse again fingers crossed I follow through and it all works
   
Closed Thread

Bookmarks

Tags
bad

Thread Tools Search this Thread
Search this Thread:

Advanced Search

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off




All material copyright 1998-2019, TeenHelp.
Terms | Legal | Privacy | Conduct | Complaints

Powered by vBulletin®.
Copyright ©2000-2019, Jelsoft Enterprises Ltd.
Search engine optimization by vBSEO.
Theme developed in association with vBStyles.