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Unhappy will it lead to this? - October 1st 2012, 05:51 AM

I'm new to this whole help for teens thing. Um, I'm about to turn 16 & am a complete & total romantic. Yet with every romantic movie or story i see, i'm stabbed by the fact that I've never had that. "You're still young." "You have plenty of time." "She'll come to you soon." I've heard them before but they don't mean anything. I don't want to be like everyone else but when I see it, others my age & some younger have had plenty of relationships & even "other" types of relations; yet I haven't had a single girlfriend ever. It's always that I'm too good of a friend or i can only be a brother to them. It's just...i feel so alone. Right now it's worse than ever. She's amazing, beautiful in every way. Shes...perfect. but once again, I am the perfect best friend. I see her bf every day & he & i used to be friends. I hate it. I hate love. I hate myself. I see them talk cute to eachother everyday on facebook. & each time, the flames that burn me get hotter. I've never felt this strong for someone. I've never hurt myself before, but every day the thought pops into my head. How quickly it could be over. Just one, single quick slit of the wrist. One small squeeze of a trigger. I want to go on, but don't even know how I've made it this far.

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Re: will it lead to this? - October 1st 2012, 02:13 PM

It is easy to SH, it's so easy! But it doesn't mean it's right. Please don't do anything to yourself, it isn't going to help you in the long run, and like me, you'll be left with some nasty scars that will be there to remind you for the rest of your life. It is good that you want to go on. That doesn't mean that you can't have terrible days, but it means that you (maybe) see a light at the end of the tunnel. I know how much it sucks to be in your situation, and it can be hard to talk about with anyone, but maybe you could tell someone, like a teacher/guidance counselor or your parents how you feel, and they can help you and/or just listen - because that can help a lot too. But please, get help before you do something and not after. I didn't, and I regret it so much and struggle everyday.
   
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Re: will it lead to this? - October 6th 2012, 09:22 PM

Hey there,

I'm really sorry you're feeling this way at the moment. First of all welcome to TeenHelp and it's great that you're reaching out for help.
As the user above said, Self Harm really isn't good for you, it can be addictive and can leave some pretty nasty scars and damage to your body. While people say it can feel good and help at the time, it doesn't it just feels like it, it's a way of coping, an unhealthy way of coping.
No girl or boy is worth hurting yourself over, I know you've probably heard it all before but your time will come and you'll meet the person that will accept you for you and love you no matter what. Yeah there may be younger people with girlfriends but so what, it doesn't matter how old you are when you have your first girlfriend, but it really isn't worth hurting yourself over.
I would suggest taking a look at the alternatives thread, they will help to distract you whenever you get any urges to hurt yourself. Remember it is trial and error and therefore not all of them may work for you, but hang in there and you will find one that does.

If you ever want/need to talk, feel free to PM me
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