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My Mom Wants to See My Arm - July 19th 2013, 04:26 AM

So I was covering up a few recent cuts with a band-aid and for once my mom actually asked why i was wearing a band-aid. So i just told her that i scraped my arm during school and they gave it to me because it was bleeding.

Well anyways today my mom said 'Hey i want to see your arm' and i still have the band-aid on it but she was asking questions and she looked like she was about to pull it off so i told her that i was going to take it off after my shower tomorrow. And then she said she still wants to see it.

I don't really know what to do, i don't want her to see my scars, not yet, and the only solution i can think of is to cover the scars with something that looks like a scrape but that just seems really messed up i don't know.

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Re: My Mom Wants to See My Arm - July 19th 2013, 09:38 AM

Have you thought about what you might say if it does come to it and she does end up seeing your arm again?

Do you have any soothing creams? I can't remember the name exactly, but there is one they sell here that is pale skin coloured for soothing rashes and other skin complaints, which would work for covering up scars and I'm fairly sure is antibacterial as well.

Could you perhaps go to a pharmacy and explain you scraped your arm, but want something to cover it up with for a job interview?

Your Mum might be more understanding than you think - she is more than likely just worried about you and wants to be sure you haven't done any serious damage and that nothing is infected or suchlike. If you buy an alternative bandage, you could explain that the school nurse/matron said it's best to keep the bandage on for 24/48/36hrs or whatever to reduce the risk of infection and speed up healing (though admiteddly I have no idea if that's actually the case).

I hope everything goes ok, and remember, next time you get the urge to cut, there are plenty of less dangerous, equally effective and less permanent alternatives. One example is the lackyband trick - just carrying a rubber band around and flicking it when you get the impulse.


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Re: My Mom Wants to See My Arm - July 19th 2013, 11:10 PM

Foundation helps to cover stuff up, usually liquid, and ive heard lotion and neosporn helps them too, as far as making it look like a scrape that would involve doing something to urself which i wouldnt advise, like Kasnec said ur mom may just be worried and could be more understanding, and there are always better alternatives, hope everything goes ok
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Re: My Mom Wants to See My Arm - July 19th 2013, 11:35 PM

I think you should consider telling your mom. Maybe not now but at some point she may find out and it's better to be forthcoming than have her find out my accident. Anyways, yeah she probably just wants to make sure it's not infected or too deep. Covering it up is likely your best bet. It would be kinda hard and not at all advisable to try to turn it into a scratch-looking mark. Just let it heal on its own and maybe put coconut oil on it? I've heard that helps to reduce scarring. And as everyone else has pointed out, there's definitely better alternatives! Cutting is like trying to solve a problem with another problem. It makes you feel better but in the long run it's only going to make your life worse.


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Re: My Mom Wants to See My Arm - July 20th 2013, 03:59 AM

I agree with RisefromtheAshes, it's better for you to tell her then her finding out accidentally. My mom found out without me telling her and it went downhill from there. But I can understand that you don't want to tell her yet, I used liquid foundation, although if they are recent I found it didn't work to well, so I used the stick foundation then put powder so it looks like a bump, etc. Hope this helps, stay strong. I'm here if you want to talk!


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