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It's been going on for a while - September 8th 2013, 03:00 PM

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I keep breaking down and I can't stand it. Whenever something bad happens to me, I rake my skin with my nails for a really long time. It started on my legs, but now I do it on my arms and stomach. I now have red, jagged marks all over my body and they're really easy to notice. My mom saw them on my arms the other day and I told her that I fell at school. I feel so lonely, and it feels a lot better to inflict myself with pain instead of someone else. I've been doing this for a while, but for some reason, right now I'm scared. If my mom finds out she is going to freak out, like she does with everything and she'll probably pull me out of school. I want help, but at the same time, I am too scared to tell anyone. What should I do?
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Re: It's been going on for a while - September 8th 2013, 04:28 PM

Hi Kayla, have you thought about trying to stop? If so, it might be useful for you to look at the alternatives to self harm list which can be found here. Make sure you take care of your wounds to prevent infection, you can find first aid information here.
Have you considered talking to someone to get support for your self harm? You could talk to a trusted friend or family member, teacher or counsellor maybe at school. Its ok to be scared to ask for help but sometimes its for the best. You could always write a letter and give it to the person instead of actually telling them which can make it easier. Another thing you could think about is hiding your self harm, for example wearing clothes over the top, make-up, etc.
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Re: It's been going on for a while - September 8th 2013, 04:42 PM

Hey there, sorry to hear about how rough things are for you right now. Self harm is very addictive so the more you do it the more you're going to keep doing it and this is just going to escalate to the point where it's impossible to hide. It doesn't have to be like that though. I urge you to try to recover. If you ever feel like you need someone to talk to PM me and I can give you my number/facebook/whatever works best for you. I'm a self harmer too so I can understand where you're coming from. Also, remember that every single time you self harm you make it more of a habit. So the next time you're not feeling well the urge to self harm will be even stronger. It works the opposite way too. If you refuse to give in to an urge the next urge will be less intense. Bottom line: it's going to be hard to stop but it's going to be worth it. Take care.

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Re: It's been going on for a while - September 9th 2013, 10:47 PM

Hey there! I'm sorry that you've been feeling like this.

First off, do you know what it is that triggers you? It's a good idea to think about what triggers you so you can learn to avoid with or deal with the cause. As mentioned before, there's definitely the Alternatives thread as well as the Self-harm Free thread. Not only can you post there, but you can get encouragement from others as well. I think telling your mom is one of the best things you can do. It's very hard to tell parents these kinds of things, but it's worth it in the end. A weight gets lifted off of your shoulders. If your mom already has asked, she might suspect something. If you're afraid to tell her face to face, you can always write a note. Recovery is hard, but it's worth it!

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